Aug 7, 2016

The Intentional Life Ep.6: Mastering Self-Love with Ruby Fremon

On today’s episode, Ruby Fremon and I discuss all things self-love.

We talk about her difficult past, the turning point that snapped her out of her life-funk, what her pathway to self-love looked like, and her unique philosophy on what it is that actually makes us more self-loving.

Ruby and I’s lives have overlapped in some pretty interesting ways over the last decade, but this was the first time that we’ve actually had a conversation. You don’t want to miss this episode.

Enjoy!

During our discussion you will discover:

– How Ruby defines self-love

– What Ruby’s ‘rock-bottom’ looked like

– How and why you should fully own your story

– How the definition of addiction has shifted (to a much healthier, more all-encompassing place) over the past few years

– The soul-honouring reason that Ruby had to jump off of a boat during the middle of a party

– Some of the most important things that you need to cut out of your life in order to have a more self-loving relationship with yourself

– Why vulnerability is so damn challenging

– What specific fears stand between you and the new, more self-loving version of yourself

– Why the utterly terrifying cocoon phase of letting go of your old, toxic friends/social circle is a necessary step in your personal growth

– How courage helps you heal

– How mastering self-love will impact every area of your life

– Specific things that you can add to your life to boost your self-love

– Whether self is more about your thoughts or your actions

– The real reason that haters exist in your life, and how they’re hurting

– How to deeply love and accept everything about yourself (even your sometimes challenging or messy past)

Resources mentioned in this interview:

Ruby’s Facebook group

Ruby’s YouTube channel

Discover Your Core Gifts with Ken Page

Related articles that you might like:

The 60 Day Self-Care Challenge

– 21 Of The Best Self-Care Practices Ever

– 11 Easy Ways To Actually Love Yourself More

Dedicated to your success,

Jordan

Jordan Gray
About Jordan Gray

Jordan Gray has been a sex and relationship coach for over 15+ years, with his work reaching over 200 million people worldwide. His writing has been featured in Vogue, GQ, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, and countless other publications around the world. When he’s not working with 1-on-1 coaching clients or writing a new article, he’s most likely to be found reading, chopping wood, or spending time with his wife on a little island off the west coast of Canada.

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