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Modern life makes it incredibly easy for men to become weak. You can get sexual stimulation without approaching a woman, food without leaving the couch, entertainment without moving your body, drugs to change almost any internal state, and endless dopamine without accomplishing anything. Today, I'm...

Six years ago, I realized that my experience of being a man needed an upgrade. I wasn't ashamed of being a man. I didn't hate men. And I definitely wasn't walking around wishing I had been born differently. It was more subtle than that. I had simply lost touch with what felt good, beautiful, enlivening,...

In my nearly 20 years of working with clients, I have heard a consistent handful of beliefs that women hold as to why they can't find a new partner. These beliefs impede their growth (personally and relationally) because they give them more weight than they deserve. How do I know this? Because when...

I have been a full-time relationship coach for coming up on twenty years, and one of the most common patterns I work with my female clients on is helping them heal their relationship with men. When they first come to me, they’ll sometimes admit things like: “I hate men.” “I sometimes feel like the...

Being single comes with a price tag, and not just financial ones. There are many things that happily partnered adults enjoy on a daily basis that their single counterparts don't get to experience. In this article, I'm going to dive into the seven areas that 1) I hear about most often from my private...

High achievers have a consistent problem that not enough people talk about publicly. They're disciplined, capable, responsible... and yet somehow still exhausted. They often have a million balls they're juggling in the air (people they're responsible for, livelihoods they support, people who come to...

We all want to live a meaningful life, but most of us unknowingly carry blind spots that hold us back. And they don’t always look like “big”, punch-you-in-the-face-obvious mistakes. They usually show up as quiet, subtle defaults. Left unchecked (and unseen), these patterns inevitably rob us of growth,...

Ever worried about sabotaging a promising new relationship? It isn't just you. A client recently sent me the following email: "I have been in a new relationship for a month now and I like him so much. The problem is that I have an obsession with manifesting him leaving. It sounds convoluted but...

Before meeting my wife, I spent years getting in my own way. I made a handful of mistakes that likely cost me years of connection, intimacy, and peace of mind. I remember sitting across from a friend one night, telling him that maybe I just wasn’t cut out for lasting love. I was frustrated,...

Many people think that their relationship will improve when the big things in life change. When they move to a new house, make more money, or finally take that long-overdue vacation. Then, they tell themselves, they'll have the time and space to put more...