May 23, 2016

The Intentional Life Ep.2: Radical Self-Love with Kelsey Grant

Today on The Intentional Life, I have amazing-badass-superwoman, and one of my personal coaches over the last two years, Kelsey Grant.

Kelsey is a love and relationship educator with her teachings rooted in a radical self love methodology. Simply put, she’s a self-love coach. And a hell of a good one, at that.

I’ve trusted her with some of my deepest, darkest secrets for a reason. This woman is a powerhouse of love and connection and she radiates all kinds of goodness.

If you’ve ever struggled with prioritizing your self-care and/or self-love practice, this short, value-packed episode will be a must-see for you.

Enjoy!

(Side note: this is also one of my favourite episodes because Kelsey and I’s long -term friendship really shines through in it. It definitely has the most laughs of any Intentional Life episode I’ve recorded to date. So, if you’ve ever wanted to see me in a goofier mood, you’re in luck!)

 

During our discussion you will discover:

– The definition of radical self-love

– The difference between self-care and self-love

– Two ridiculously simple and practical ways that we can start implementing more self-love into our daily lives

– How we can become more aware of the bullshit stories that hold us back, and how to be more self-compassionate as a result of this awareness

– The problem with meditation, as most people try to practice it

– What discipline has to do with our relationship to radical self-love

– The flooding method vs. progressive de-sensitization

– The exact thing we can do to help other people in our lives be more self-loving, and kinder to themselves

– The most important thing we need to avoid when encouraging others (friend, family, lovers, etc.) along in their self-love practices

Resources mentioned in this interview:

– Kelsey’s website

– Kelsey’s book

Related articles that you might like:

21 Of The Best Self-Care Practices Ever

11 Easy Ways To Actually Love Yourself More

7 Simple Life Skills That Improve Everything

Jordan Gray
About Jordan Gray

Jordan Gray has been a sex and relationship coach for over 15+ years, with his work reaching over 200 million people worldwide. His writing has been featured in Vogue, GQ, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, and countless other publications around the world. When he’s not working with 1-on-1 coaching clients or writing a new article, he’s most likely to be found reading, chopping wood, or spending time with his wife on a little island off the west coast of Canada.

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