Jul 14, 2015

5 Powerful Romantic Gestures They Will Remember Forever

Ever wanted to do something truly special for your partner?

Maybe you’ve been around the block and you feel like you’ve done all there is to do. Maybe you’re an all-around superb intimate partner in a lot of ways. Maybe… just maybe… on occasion you’ve even managed to make your significant other tear up from one of your grand romantic gestures.

But if you’re looking to ramp things up in a big way… to rekindle the romance, spark the passion, or just make your significant other feel significant again, you’ve come to the right place.

Here are five powerful romantic gestures they will remember forever.

1. Create A Romantic Highlight Reel Of Your Relationship

Slowly collect video footage of yourselves (either on a specific trip, on multiple trips, or over the course of your entire relationship) and have the footage edited into a cute short video put to music.

Watch Out For:

When it comes to the length of your romantic video, generally, shorter is better. A tightly cut 3-5 minute video will be better received than a 25-minute video that has a painfully slow pacing. It should be edited tightly enough that you could show it to your friends/family and they would also be entertained by it (and believe me, your partner will definitely want to show it off to others once they have seen it). You want the video to feel like the equivalent of looking at a visual resume… as in “Wow, look at all of the amazing things we’ve done together and how much we love each other!” When it comes to this gesture, quality definitely wins out over quantity. You want high impact footage that makes your partner ask to watch it again five times immediately after the first time they see it.

Not much of a video editor? Totally fine! Most people aren’t either. Hire a university/film school student to edit it for you. You should be able to outsource the editing process to a capable video editor for anywhere from $50-200. But don’t skimp too much if you decide to have someone else edit it. Remember, you and your love will likely be watching this video over a hundred times through the course of your relationship. And just like you wouldn’t hire the cheapest wedding photographer to capture your special day (because you know the images would be with you for life), so to it is with your romantic video highlight reel.

How To Multiply The Magic:

Have the song/songs that you choose be pieces of music that are relevant to you and your partner. Maybe you put the entire video to “your song”. Maybe you only use songs by artists that you know your significant other adores. Maybe you use the song that you first slow danced to. Whatever the origins of the music, make sure it’s relevant and congruent with your relationship.

You can also invest in a higher end video editor (likely in the $500-1,500 range) who will create custom titles (the pages with words throughout your video), make sure that the video edits are timed to the music, and the overall quality and production value will rise. As long as you pick someone whose demo reel you can scope out beforehand, video editing is definitely an industry where you get what you pay for.

Final note, personally I think that the best romantic highlight reels are created when you take footage that spans a significant length of time. So pick up a camera that you can easily shoot video with, and start storing away footage of the two of you and your adventures sooner than later. That way, when you come to edit/give the footage to the editor, you have years of memories that you can then condense into a beautiful, romantic reminder of all of the fun that you two have shared together. The video, when revealed to your partner, creates a uniquely unparalleled feeling of “This is our story, and we’re creating it one day at a time.”

2. The Engraved Gift

Give your lover an engraved personal item with a quote, or a few words that mean something to the both of you.

For example, if they play guitar, get them an engraved capo. If you’ve been dating for a while, give them an engraved bracelet or other piece of jewelry. If they love drinking beer, give them an engraved beer mug. As always, it’s important to calibrate the item to your partner.

You could have an inside joke/short phrase engraved, or the simple format of your first names with the date of when you officially became a couple.

Watch Out For:

Typos! Check, double check, and triple check the spelling and the words that you hand off to the transcriptionist. And make sure you pay a trustable service. You don’t want to find the least expensive option in town and have them mess up your beautiful gift.

3. The Weekend Getaway

Secretly make plans for the two of you by booking a weekend excursion away to a place that’s within a few hours drive of you (think spa, cabin, hiking… all of which are great for romantic connection). Make the sole intention for your weekend to deeply reconnect as a couple.

Watch Out For:

Distractions! The intention behind your weekend is to reconnect, so make sure you keep any and all life stuff away from you. No phones, no kids, don’t bring work along with you… the weekend is just for the two of you.

4. The ‘100 Things I Love About You’ List

If you’re more of a bullet-point type of writer, or your partner is more logic and structured than most people, then this format of delivering praise and appreciation might work better for your partner.

Write up a list of 100 things that you love about them and frame it in a beautiful frame.

You can even sub-categorize the things that you love about them into ten different sections. You can include section headlines/themes such as “How you are with your friends”, “How you are in your work life”, and “How you are with me”, and then provide ten examples of things that you love about them under each of those section headlines. As always, calibrate your theme and compliments to your significant other as best as you can.

Watch Out For:

Repetitiveness. While there may be some natural overlap in the things that you’re complimenting your partner on, make sure that you’re not simply re-wording the same ten things over and over. Dig deep to find some variety in what it is that you love about them.

How To Multiply The Magic:

Have the layout of the piece of paper professionally designed to have a photo of you and your partner as the faint background behind the words.

5. The Super-Achiever Special

Send Them To The Spa + fill the house with their snacks while doing the chores

For those who are especially taken by gestures of service, there isn’t much better you can do than this one.

Send your significant other to the spa for the day (preferably a 4-6 hour spa package) and do ALL of the chores while they’re out of the house.

Do all of the laundry, clean every surface, vacuum, tidy up, take out the garbage and the recycling, replace burn out light bulbs, and fix anything that needs to be fixed or updated.

Want to kick it up a notch even further? Fill the fridge and pantry with all of their favourite snacks and drinks while they’re out as well.

Become The Ultimate Romantic

If you liked these, I’m certain you’ll like my new book 50 Powerful Romantic Gestures That Will Make Your Partner Melt.

In the book, I go into detail about fifty powerful romantic gesture ideas from the every day niceties to the grand sweeping gestures that will blow them away. There’s something for everyone in here and it’s sure to level up your love life in no time.

You can check it out (on Kindle and paperback) by clicking here. Or on PDF here.

Dedicated to your success,

Jordan

Ps. I’m not kidding. These gestures are seriously powerful. I guarantee that if you do all five of these romantic gestures, you will make your significant other cry tears of joy. So go forth… and spread love!

Jordan Gray
About Jordan Gray

Jordan Gray has been a sex and relationship coach for over 15+ years, with his work reaching over 200 million people worldwide. His writing has been featured in Vogue, GQ, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, and countless other publications around the world. When he’s not working with 1-on-1 coaching clients or writing a new article, he’s most likely to be found reading, chopping wood, or spending time with his wife on a little island off the west coast of Canada.

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