Feb 17, 2017

The Better Sex Diet: Exactly What I Eat Every Day

As anyone who has been following me for a while will know, almost every decision that I make is ultimately optimized for one of two things…

1. My mental clarity

2. My creative/sexual energy

How I eat, sleep, relax, play, and live are all optimized for these two outcomes.

My primary core values all come down to loving as fully as possible and giving as much as possible to the world. And both of these two things are served by having a clear mind and an abundance of creative energy.

One of the biggest contributing factors to my sexual and creative energy is the food that I put in my body. When I eat starchy, sugar-y, overly processed foods, I feel terrible and my cognitive functioning and sex drive immediately suffer. Conversely, when I eat clean, I sleep better, think more clearly, and enjoy a much more deeply satisfying sex life.

Hot on the heels of my article The 6 Best Herbs And Supplements For Boosting Your Sex Drive, I thought I would release a deep-dive article on the whole food element of my daily nutrient intake.

While my life obviously has some fairly frequent deviations from the following three meals, these are by far the most common things that I eat on a daily basis.

The Better Sex Diet: How To Eat For Better Sex

For general context, I avoid common gut irritants (dairy, gluten, alcohol, refined sugar), and I eat in 2-4 square meals per day, depending on my unique goals for the day.

While I am far from being strict about it, many people would put me somewhere in the paleo / Whole30 / ketogenic / plant-based / Bulletproof diet range. Which is to say, I eat clean and don’t put a lot of crap in my body. I generally eat high fat, high protein, low carb, easily digestible, nutrient dense super foods.

If it’s deeply nourishing, easy to digest, and I can make it in under ten minutes, then, chances are, I like eating it.

So, if you’re looking to sleep better, have a healthier gut, better skin, healthier hair, and you want a better sex life… you’ve come to the right article.

Let’s get into it.

Early Morning: Water / Intermittent Fasting

Most of the mornings that I wake up, I like to continue to fast until I actually feel hungry.

I regularly like to wake up some time between 4 and 6am and write for a few hours before I put any real calories in my body. During this time, I’ll drink 1-2 litres of water with the juice of a whole fresh lemon squeezed into it.

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This is also the time of day that I most like to go for a walk and watch the sunrise (hooray for natural vitamin D!). Any kind of movement in the morning (walking, jogging, yoga/stretching, going to the gym) helps you to clear your mind, build emotional resilience, and get your creative juices flowing.

Then I’ll journal out my thoughts and action steps for the day in a Moleskine journal, and then it’s time for breakfast.

Why It’s Good For Your Sex Life: 

Intermittent fasting has been proven to show spikes in luteinizing hormone (LH) and testosterone levels. In other words, it boosts your sex drive substantially, even if you only do it once or twice per week.

Morning: High-Fat Nutrient-Dense Smoothie, Free-Range Eggs, And Supplements

The lineup of bottles that I have accumulated over the past few years has started to make a section of my fridge look like a miniature pharmacy, but each supplement plays a necessary role in the nutrient profile of my breakfast smoothie.

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In my smoothie I will include:

– 1-2 small servings of fruit (most frequently: banana, blackberries, raspberries, blueberries)

– 4-5 servings of vegetables (spinach, steamed kale, cucumber, cilantro, parsley, spirulina, chlorella, organic greens powder)

– a generous serving of healthy fats (avocado, coconut oil, cashew butter, almond butter, MCT oil, hemp hearts, cacao nibs, black chia seeds)

– high quality protein (Bulletproof collagen protein, Garden Of Life vegan protein)

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Depending on how many calories I’m going for on that particular day I will scale up or down certain ingredients (mainly the fruits and the fats) and go from there.

There are also a handful of supplements that I consume most days for good measure.

Organic cinnamon

Liposomal curcumin (turmeric)

Liposomal vitamin C

A high quality B vitamin complex

Mushroom extract powder (for the immune system)

Magnesium bisglycinate (anti-cramping, improved mood)

Probiotics (for healthy digestion/gut health)

Pine pollen and maca root powder (for a libido boost)

Flax seed oil

Omega 3 oil + DHA (for brain health, cognitive function, and improved mood)

If it’s a high calorie day (I have a big workout coming up later that morning, or I’m making up for under eating over the previous handful of days) then I will also eat an egg scramble with brightly coloured vegetables (orange and red peppers, tomato, purple onion, purple cabbage etc.) and some naturally fermented foods (like sauerkraut, kim chi, pickles, kefir, etc.) for gut health.

And that will usually keep me full until at least 1pm.

Why It’s Good For Your Sex Life: 

Brightly coloured vegetables, dark berries, curcumin, whole free-range eggs, and many other ingredients listed in this section are amazing precursors to testosterone production. And the pine pollen, maca powder, and organic, healthy fats (avocado, coconut oil, etc.) kick your libido into overdrive.

Lunch: Batch Produced Organic Stir-Fry or Chilli 

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I’m fairly lazy when it comes to spending too much cooking on a daily basis (hence the nature of my breakfasts and dinners)… so I like batch producing my lunches for the week on one day over the weekend (usually Sunday’s).

Whether it’s a stew, chilli, stir-fry, or any other name for the same thing… I essentially make a huge batch of cooked veggies with some lean protein mixed in, and coconut oil or olive oil for the added fats, and then refrigerate and/or freeze the leftovers and eat them throughout the week. For this, it helps to have a set of quality glassware that you can freeze your portions for later consumption.

Why It’s Good For Your Sex Life: 

The human body requires healthy fats to produce most hormones, including testosterone.

Coconut oil helps with your ability to produce cholesterol, which is necessary for optimal health, reduce your body fat and maintain your body weight. As a side note, overall weight control is also another natural way of improving testosterone production.

It’s also good to have warm foods (not just cold smoothies and salads) in your stomach because, according to ancient Chinese traditions around food, pre-heated foods help to keep the ‘fire’ in your stomach burning consistently (instead of dampening your digestive fires with only cold foods).

Snack: Nuts, Dark Berries, 80+% Dark Chocolate

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I’m not a huge snacker (I generally just drink a lot of water throughout the day to keep myself full between meals), but when I do snack, I tend to go for nuts, dark berries, and dark chocolate.

Having a large jar of organic cashew butter, almond butter, or coconut oil on hand is always helpful to curb your cravings. Grab a spoon full of your favourite fat and slurp it down. Same goes for blackberries, blueberries, and dark chocolate (make sure it’s at least 80% cacao).

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These clever little snacks contain healthy fats, a whole host of antioxidants, and magnesium, manganese, iron, and zinc to get you through your afternoon.

Why It’s Good For Your Sex Life: 

Dark chocolate contains L-arginine, an amino acid that’s an effective natural sex enhancing compound for women and men. L-arginine works by increasing nitric oxide in your body and thereby promoting blood flow to your sexual organs, which can increase sexual desire.

Dinner: A Huge, Colourful Salad With Fish Or Chicken

That’s right… more veggies.

I aim to consume 10-20 servings of vegetables per day, and I try to have a few in every meal. My dinner is generally just a huge pile of veggies (either a massive salad, or a big cooked up veggie scramble in coconut oil and/or grass-fed ghee butter).

On a bed of spinach and mixed greens, I will add red/orange pepper, tomato, avocado, cucumber, and a handful of dark berries. Then, for added protein, either smoked salmon, sardines, or some other type of fish or chicken.

To finish it off, I’ll add nori (seaweed) flakes, pink himalayan salt, bacon flavoured coconut flakes, and a healthy dose of organic olive oil, a tablespoon or balsamic vinegar reduction, and the juice of a full lemon.

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Why It’s Good For Your Sex Life: 

I’ve already touched on the health benefits of eating large doses of brightly coloured vegetables and dark berries… so for this section I’ll focus on the olive oil and fish.

The omega 3 fatty acids in fish are good for cognitive functioning, stabilized mood, and muscle reparation, and, research shows, that those who consume olive oil regularly show a 17-19% boost in testosterone in a matter of weeks.

Once my belly is full of nutrient dense veggies I call it quits for food for the day. I avoid eating anything after 7pm, but if I’m out really late and come home and want something to snack on before I pass out for the night I’ll usually have a tablespoon of almond butter or coconut oil.

Then I shower, journal, read, and wind down for the night.

So that’s it… a ton of vegetables, a bit of fruit, a large helping of healthy fats, some lean proteins, and a lot of water. Nutrient dense, easy to prepare, and (most importantly) highly optimized for overall life energy. I hope that this article has served you well, and remember to check out some of the additional resources listed below.

Dedicated to your success,

Jordan

Ps. If you enjoyed this post, you will likely also love reading:

The 6 Best Herbs And Supplements For Boosting Your Sex Drive

The Greatest Health Investment You Could Possibly Make

21 Of The Best Self Care Practices Ever

– 5 Weird Stress Busting Techniques You’ve Never Heard Of

Pps. If you enjoyed this article, you’ll likely also love checking out these additional resources:

Collagen protein from Bulletproof

The Omnivore’s Dilemma by Michael Pollan

Breaking The Vicious Cycle: Intestinal Health Through Diet by Elaine Gottschall

Liposomal vitamin C from NanoNutra

Liposomal curcumin (aka turmeric) from NanoNutra

– My favourite organic coconut oil

– My favourite high quality source of omega 3’s + DHA

Flax seed oil

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