Feb 24, 2014

The Long Term Investment Strategy Of Finding Your True Love

There are two ways you can go about getting anything in life.

The short cut, or the long road.

There are pros and cons to each but, overall, I think you intuitively know that we don’t value that which we don’t work for.

And good things come to those who wait.

What’s Wrong With Rushing?

Rushing into a relationship that doesn’t serve you and your growth ignores all of the work that you’ve put into yourself throughout your life.

While it might seem like you’re behind in your life because everyone around you is getting married, you understand the value in holding out for someone that makes you come alive.

Why Playing The Long Game Is Better For Your Love Life

Have you ever asked yourself “Am I being too picky? Shouldn’t I just settle for someone and give up my dream of finding the perfect partner?” This is a huge indication that you are likely playing the long game of partner finding.

While everyone around you is rushing into romance with whoever they can find, something inside of you calls out for more.

You didn’t sell your personal stock to the highest bidder just because someone was offering. You know your internal worth and you know you deserve someone just as amazing as you.

While others were partying seven nights a week, you were building skills. While they were spending hours every day on their hair, you spent hours reading a book. While they were ordering pizza for the fourth time that week, you were walking to the grocery store to pick up real, nutritious food that nurtured you from the inside out.

Am I suggesting that being externally focused isn’t valuable? No. Cultivating your awesomeness internally and externally both bring value to who you are as a person.

You can chase financial wealth, while also being a frequent meditator. You can have a sexy, toned body and also read several books a week. You can party your face off on the weekend and still show up on time for work. It’s not an either/or scenario.

But there’s that nagging voice inside of you that tells you that you have come this far, and you sometimes feel like maybe you’re setting your standards too high.

But are you?

long term investment strategy

We Attract What We Are

Whether we’re talking about building financial wealth, getting into amazing shape, or finding the love of your life, slow and steady wins the race.

If you have taken the time to cultivate yourself into a respectful, self-aware, successful, and loving person, then you deserve someone who brings equal value to the relationship.

It might take you longer to find the right person for you, but they’re out there.

You want someone who makes you light up… someone who challenges you… someone who makes your face hurt because your smile is uncontrollably prominent whenever you are around them.

And they are worth waiting for.

Dedicated to your success,

Jordan

Jordan Gray
About Jordan Gray

Jordan Gray has been a sex and relationship coach for over 15+ years, with his work reaching over 200 million people worldwide. His writing has been featured in Vogue, GQ, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, and countless other publications around the world. When he’s not working with 1-on-1 coaching clients or writing a new article, he’s most likely to be found reading, chopping wood, or spending time with his wife on a little island off the west coast of Canada.

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