Aug 3, 2023

7 Of My Favourite Things That Make My Life Better

Over the last 10+ years of my writing reaching over 100 million people all around the world, I’ve been asked a lot of questions.

What’s my favourite sex toy, favourite cologne, favourite non-toxic dish soap, etc. etc….

Well today, I won’t be talking about any of those things.

But I will be talking about seven things I have been absolutely loving lately.

Some of them I’ve been engaging with for years, and others are newer to me (but still equally as fun and awesome).

Here are, in no particular order, seven things that have been bringing great value to my life in recent years.

(Note: Many of the following things are free to do/engage with, and some of them have price tags associated with them. Of the ones that cost any money, I have used affiliate links for a couple of them, which sometimes give you discounts and sometimes send a few bucks my way, at zero cost to you. Rest assured that these are all things I engage with, and would – and often do – recommend these products and services to my closest friends.)

1. Working With An Accountability Coach

I have been self-employed for the majority of the last 20 years, and one thing that I underestimated the impact of would be the amount of isolation that comes with working for yourself.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I get lots of time to spend with friends and my wife… but when I put in my work hours, 98% of the time, it’s spent solo. Whereas if I worked in an office, I would get an automatic dose of social connection by having co-workers physically around me.

I came across an ad for a company called Commit Action and immediately resonated with their philosophy.

We are a social species, and we aren’t meant to be at peak-productivity when isolated.

Their proposed solution? A weekly accountability coaching session, with a dedicated coach who helps keep you on track by ensuring that you stay focused on executing high-leverage tasks.

I’ve been a Commit Action client for well over a year now, and absolutely love the service.

My weekly goal-setting ritual is essentially set for me (which is great because it requires no willpower). My coach and I hop on a 20 minute phone call, touch base on how I’ve done over the previous week, and then set the new goals for the coming week.

If I had to guess, I would say that I’ve probably seen a 50x return on investment with Commit Action.

If you’re curious to find out more about Commit Action, and you can imagine a way that an accountability coach would serve you in your life, you can click this link to read more about their service.

2. Exclusively Wearing Custom Fitted T-Shirts

If you’ve been on my email list for more than a few years, you’ve likely heard me talk about this before. And here I am… talking about it again… BECAUSE I LOVE THEM THAT MUCH.

I have exclusively worn custom fitted t-shirts by a company called Son Of A Tailor for the last six years.

Why do I love them so much? Three main reasons.

– The shirts fit perfectly (because they’re tailor made to fit you).

– They are incredibly soft (super high quality/very soft fabrics).

– The company produces zero waste (because every single shirt is made to order, so they carry zero inventory – which is the reverse of how 99.9% of the clothing industry operates).

They also make polos, henleys, sweatshirts, and other things – but I just go for the t-shirts because that’s all I wear.

If you (or someone you know) finds it difficult to buy off-the-rack for any reason, I can’t recommend Son Of A Tailor more. If you order a shirt through this link you also get $30 off your first order.

What I always recommend doing is ordering a single shirt using their online questionnaire. 9 times out of 10 that will create a perfect fit for you, but if it doesn’t and there’s anything you want to change, they have a free remake guarantee so you can get the shirt remade to your specifications, and then once you’ve found the absolute perfect fit, then I recommend bulk ordering a bunch of the shirts to unlock the best bulk pricing discounts. Enjoy!

3. Cultivating Digital Spaciousness

Digital spaciousness is underrated.

Years ago, I unsubscribed from all but a few email lists… and have been following fewer than 10 (usually fewer than 5) Instagram accounts for the majority of the last decade… and it serves me well.

I get that there are hundreds of people being paid very well to make the apps that I use as sticky as possible so that they become the most deeply compelling infinity pools that they can be. And so one of the things that I do to counteract that fact is always staying on top of my digital hygiene by not letting my ‘following’ count get too bloated.

If you find your email inbox (or Instagram account, Facebook account, YouTube account, etc.) to be a stressful thing to log into… I would suggest deploying the 80/20 rule and unfollowing/unsubscribing all of the providers that don’t bring any value to your life. You’ll be glad you did.

4. Driving

This might sound strange to some, but since moving from a major city out to rural farmland, I have easily driven more in the last two years than I had during the rest of my life combined.

And you know what? I’ve been loving it.

The freedom, spaciousness, and quiet of the open road has been so enjoyable.

Whenever I drive in our nature-y, small town, extended backyard, the 6-year-old part of me that used to see the big kids ripping around on the go-kart track still feels like, ‘I get to do this??’

Sometimes I drive just to run near-pointless errands (is it actually good for the environment if I burn 20 kilometres worth of gas just to take in two small bags of recycling?) and other times I drive just to drive. But either way, it brings me a lot of joy.

5. The Best Natural Deodorant In The World

I’ll name it off the bat… this one is so special to me, that I’m a little nervous to tell tens of thousands of my readers about it, because I don’t want them to be sold out forever. But I care more that this business does well and has customers for life so that they easily stay in business, so here goes.

My wife introduced me to a little-known brand of natural deodorant called Island Naturals last year, and I was an immediate convert.

This organic, probiotic little pit-stick has zero scent, zero harmful chemicals, and it magically works for days.

The only downside is that it is a deodorant but not an anti-perspirant, so if you’re a big armpit sweater then this won’t be for you.

You can check out Island Naturals by clicking here.

6. Having A Bedtime Alarm

In the entrepreneurial/productivity community, I think that far too much emphasis is put on wake up time and morning routines.

I don’t think it matters what time you wake up. Being a part of the ‘4 am club’ is completely arbitrary.

In fact, I think it matters far more what time you go to bed.

I have operated this way for the last 10+ years. If I go to bed early and let my body get as much sleep as it needs, that’s all that matters.

Because of this, I find it far more useful to set a bedtime alarm than I do a wake-up alarm.

What time I set the bedtime alarm shifts depending on the season (it gets dark where I live between 4-5pm in the winter, and between 9-10pm in the summer), but it’s the consistency of the habit that counts.

I’m far from perfect at it. Sometimes I ignore the bedtime alarm and just keep reading whatever book I’m engrossed in, and sometimes I disable the alarm because my sleep habits are dialled in without it. But whenever I’m looking to get better at bedtime boundaries, setting a repeat-every-day alarm to prompt me to go to bed has served me well.

7. The Circle

Last year, I was asked one of the most impactful questions I had ever heard.

Someone asked me, ‘How would you set up your business if you knew that you were never going to change?’

It immediately hit me like a ton of bricks.

As soon as I heard it I knew that I needed to set up a community space where I would be able to 1) do weekly group coaching calls to answer any questions people had for me, and also 2) have it be a place where I was able to put new creations/courses/resources as I made them.

Thus, The Circle was born.

We have over 100 active members in the space, and it is such a beautiful, heart-warming space.

As of the time of this writing, we have been doing our weekly calls for over six months (I haven’t had to miss a week due to travel or sickness yet) and there are four whole courses available along with a dozen deep dive bonus resources on things like boundary setting, inner child healing, grief, emotional processing, loving sex, and a lot more.

If you have yet to experience the community, I can’t recommend it enough.

The warmth, generosity, and love of the community is worth it alone… and all of the bonus resources and ability to get feedback from me on an ongoing basis is just icing on the cake.

You can find out more about what it all entails and sign up for it by clicking here.

These seven things are just a handful of aspect of my life that bring me great joy on a regular basis.

Of course, there are plentiful others like my wife, my friends, having a second freezer to store all of our pre-made soups for the winter that I could have put on this list… but these were the ones I felt like writing about today, so I hope you enjoyed them.

Dedicated to your success,


Ps. In case you wanted to see those links again, you can sign up for Commit Action by clicking here, get your first tailor made t-shirt from Son Of A Tailor by clicking here, and find out more about The Circle by clicking here.



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