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Whether you want to profess your love to someone special, or you want to re-affirm your love to your significant other, words are a massively powerful tool. The problem is that most people aren’t as eloquent as they would like to be when it comes to putting pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard). If...

Valentine’s Day is coming up soon… do you know what you’re going to do for it? Whether you celebrate the holiday with a significant other or not, these five powerful ideas will be good ones to keep in your back pocket for future use. If you are celebrating the holiday, please, please, please avoid...

Fights happen in all relationships and they are a completely healthy occurrence. But are you engaging in them in a way that might be doing long-term damage to your partnership? And what if you knew how to swiftly and accurately defuse any fight from escalating? Well, wouldn’t that just be nifty! I’ll...

It’s time that we started a revolution in how we think about sex. Frustrated men, women, and lovers world wide are standing up and saying ENOUGH already with this two-dimensional sex. Here’s the problem… Most men think of sex as a linear act. I could be all politically correct and say most people,...

Do you live with your significant other, or plan to live with one in the future? Great! Read on… It’s so easy to take our relationship for granted when we live with our partner and see them every day. When you live apart from each other they seem like more of a scarce resource. When will you see...

I set out to make 2014 the year that I worked through the deepest roots of my emotional turmoil. Due to a combination of childhood bullying and depression, and a rather emotionally devastating break up in my early twenties, I feared letting people get close to me in intimate relationships for the...

Whether you’ve been dating for a few weeks, or a few decades, every couple needs a few stand-by dates that they can use to quickly reconnect. Maybe you’ve been busy. Maybe you haven’t made the time to slow down and really see each other. Maybe you’ve been having a stressful week at work and haven’t...

What are boundaries? A quick google search brings me to “Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify for themselves what are reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave around him or her and how they will respond when someone steps outside...

There’s nothing more normal than performance anxiety. I’ve been working with men who have had frequent or occasional bouts of sexual dysfunction (erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, etc.) and performance anxiety for the past six years. Let me start off by saying that there is nothing more normal,...

Mind-blowing sex is 10% technical skill, and 90% connection, presence, and emotionality. It’s more about reading your partner, moment to moment, than it is about perfecting a specific hand technique (although hand techniques certainly don’t hurt). My clients frequently ask me how to optimize their sex...