Jan 22, 2017

I Promise To Never Be Lazy In Loving You

I promise to see into your soul on a daily basis.

I promise to ask you how your day was, and give you all of the presence of attention at my disposal.

I promise to always take good care of myself, and to lean on others for support.

I promise to come to you for support when I need it.

I promise to take regular trips with you, because the world is waiting for us to hold hands in front of it.

When you’ve taken on more than you can handle, I promise to stand by your side and take some of the weight off of your shoulders.

I promise to put effort into date nights, our connection, and our sex life.

I promise to constantly grow and evolve with you in our relationship.

I promise to share the truth in my heart with you, every day.

I promise to always be available for the difficult conversations, even in the middle of the night.

I promise to remind you exactly what it is that I love about you, as often as you will listen.

I promise to never criticize you in front of our friends or family.

I promise to put my head on your beating heart when we’re old and wrinkly everywhere.

I promise to love you when you don’t feel like you can get out of bed… and I promise to love you when you don’t feel like getting into bed.

I promise to love you, even when you’re being a jerk. And I promise to love you so much that I will tell you when you’re being a jerk.

I promise to have your back, no matter what.

I promise you, from this day moving forward, I will never be lazy in loving you.

You have my word.

Ps. If you enjoyed this post you’ll likely also love reading:

– I Believe In Loving Like You Give A Shit

– A 23 Point Love Contract To Bulletproof Your Relationship

– How To Find And Date An Exceptionally High Quality Partner

Jordan Gray
About Jordan Gray

Jordan Gray has been a sex and relationship coach for over 15+ years, with his work reaching over 200 million people worldwide. His writing has been featured in Vogue, GQ, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, and countless other publications around the world. When he’s not working with 1-on-1 coaching clients or writing a new article, he’s most likely to be found reading, chopping wood, or spending time with his wife on a little island off the west coast of Canada.

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