Jul 10, 2018

How To 80/20 Absolutely Everything In Your Life

The Pareto Principle (also commonly known as the 80/20 Rule) is a simple rule that states that 80% of your results come from 20% of your efforts.

Like any arbitrary model of reality, the 80/20 rule has it’s pros and cons, but is generally a beneficial perspective to take on much of your daily life.

What 20% of food options do you eat 80% of the time?

What do you spend 20% of your time doing that brings you 80% of your happiness?

What 20% of your social network do you generally end up spending 80% of your time with?

What 20% of your clients bring you 80% of your results?

What 20% of your movement or exercise habits bring you 80% of your health?

What 20% of your things do you actually use 80% of the time?

What 20% of the things that you do in your relationship bring 80% of the joy, love, and connection to you and your partner’s lives?

What 20% of your restful habits bring you 80% of your relaxation?

What 20% of the supplements do you take that you notice 80% of your results with?

I could go on for another few dozen examples, but I think you get the point.

Being a coach and public writer whose audience size grows every month, I get a lot of people asking me for quick fixes and silver-bullet type answers. And while I tend to steer away from paint-by-numbers approaches to life’s complex issues, I want to share some of the highest leverage tips I have found across my entire life.

These things, by my current estimation, are the 80/20 rule hacks that have brought the most fulfillment to my life.

I hope you get something out of this list.

The Ultimate 80/20 Life Hacks That Have Been Bringing Me The Most Happiness, Health, And Love Lately

1. Drink More Water

As one of my early mentors Jim Rohn often said, “Easy to do, easy not to do.”

Not drinking enough water results in sleepiness, general fatigue, headaches, negatively impacted libido, constipation, patchy memory and verbal recall, acne breakouts, and more undesirable outcomes.

Drinking enough water results in more energy, alertness, flexibility, increased libido, having an easier time falling asleep and staying asleep, improved cognitive function, and healthier, more vibrant skin.

80/20 Rule life hack: buy a water bottle that you love, and drink 2-4 refills of it per day, depending on size.

2. Eat More Vegetables

If you make half of your plate vegetables, for all three of your meals, every day, you will be a healthier human being.

And by healthier I mean you will think better, sleep better, connect with people easier, have more desire for sex, and be more successful in life.

It isn’t difficult to assume the impact of this single habit through your life. If you mainly eat vegetables, you will have an easier time in life. If you mainly eat burgers, you will not have as easy of a time.

But that doesn’t mean that burgers are evil.

80/20 Rule life hack: eat more vegetables with every meal. Ideally, half of the physical volume of food you eat at every meal will be vegetables. Cooked veg, raw veg, blended veg, greens powder. It all helps.

3. Walk Anywhere, Ever (Ideally In Nature)

We are the most sedentary we have ever been, and we spend more time indoors than we ever have.

Forego the occasional elevator, car ride, or taxi, and walk somewhere.

Walk across town. Walk up the stairs. Walk in a forest, if you have access to one.

When you look at a bird, it is obvious that its body was meant to fly in the air. Similarly, when you look at a human, it is equally as obvious that it is meant to walk… and yet we let machines do so much of our walking for us.

80/20 Rule life hack: literally just walk anywhere. Ideally in nature. As close to daily as possible.

4. Invest Like Hell In Your Closest Friendships

It is highly likely that the emotional fulfillment that you get from a select handful of your friends brings you more joy than the 80% of others who you don’t enjoy spending time with that much.

Over the last two years, I made making friends one of my greatest priorities. I set the intention, put in the effort, and found a group of people that make my heart sing.

Now, when I decide who I’m going camping with, or who I should invite to karaoke, or who I should call up late at night when I’m stressed/struggling/needing support, my decision is already made for me.

I have found my humans, and I love them dearly.

If you have dead weight to cut in your sprawling and distracted social life, do that. Conversely, if you have friends who you have been wanting to invest in more than you have been, then do that.

80/20 Rule life hack: find a small group of people who you absolutely love, and invest more of your time, energy, love, and resources into them.

5. Find Something That Is Both Fun For You And Profitable And Then Quadruple Your Efforts Down On That

In other words, follow your bliss, but make sure that it is a bliss that the world is willing to pay for.

The main reason that my website has become as successful as it is is because I stubbornly refused to do anything other than what I wanted to do (writing and coaching people 1-on-1) from day one.

If you love writing, start a blog or start releasing books on Amazon… and keep doing that.

If you love giving people massages and people love paying you for massages… keep massaging.

If you love city planning, or designing bridges, or drawing comics, or making vegan cheese… well, you get the idea.

Do the thing that stokes the fire in your belly, do it well, and people will find a way to pay you for your efforts.

And if you are quick to tell yourself that there is no money in doing what you love… have you tested that theory? Seriously. Have you really, truly given it an honest, extended try… or is that just a convenient excuse that you hide behind because actually putting yourself out there and doing the work is massively confronting and challenging?

You spend a significant portion of your life working… are you going to phone it in and do something that just lets you get by (when we have literally never been in a better time and place as a species to make our life’s work something that also pays our bills)?

80/20 Rule life hack: make your passion into your career. Fight like hell to make this a reality in your life… because life is too long to be spent doing something you hate.

That’s it. Water, veggies, walking, human connection, and aligned work.

And if these five tips seem dead simple, well, that’s the point.

Small hinges swing big doors.

By putting genuine and consistent effort into the force multipliers in your life, you will see positive impact ripple throughout the various pillars of your life.

Dedicated to your success,

Jordan

Ps. If you enjoyed reading this article, you will also love checking out:

The Better Sex Diet: Exactly What I Eat Every Day

How To Manage Stress (Or How I Weather My Shit Storm Of A Year)

How To Overcome Depression Naturally

21 Of The Best Self Care Practices Ever

How To Make Friends As An Adult

Jordan Gray
About Jordan Gray

Jordan Gray has been a sex and relationship coach for over 15+ years, with his work reaching over 200 million people worldwide. His writing has been featured in Vogue, GQ, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, and countless other publications around the world. When he’s not working with 1-on-1 coaching clients or writing a new article, he’s most likely to be found reading, chopping wood, or spending time with his wife on a little island off the west coast of Canada.

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