How To Strengthen Your Penis For Better Sex: Lasting Longer and Harder

Have you ever suffered from bouts of erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation (especially when it mattered the most to you to perform well)?

Want to feel more confident about your sex life, instead of anxious? Want to know you’ll forever be able to sexually provide for your partner? AND be up for the challenge whenever the opportunity presents itself?

First of all, erectile dysfunction is completely normal. And it’s also completely avoidable.

With a few simple, natural practices, your penis will be functioning better than ever before. With no pills, potions, or pumps necessary.

No more having to rely on excuses like “Sorry, I guess I had too much to drink”, “I’m just not in the mood tonight”, or “I came that quickly because you just looked so damn sexy”.

It’s time to strengthen your penis for better sex, firmer erections, and legendary lasting power between the sheets.

Before I get into the specific action steps that you can start using today to strengthen your penis for better sex, you might be wondering… is it even possible?

Is It Possible To Strengthen Your Penis?

Absolutely, yes, it is possible to strengthen your penis.

Depending on your genetic make up, your penis is made up of anywhere from 30-60% smooth muscle tissue. And just like other kinds of muscle tissue, it can grow (or shrink) depending on how you use it. More on this soon…

Sharpen Your Own Sword

It’s never been easier to acquire over the counter quick-fixes for semi-occasional erectile dysfunction. But avoid the temptation!

These pills, herbs and supplements only make the problem worse – on multiple levels. The only way to sustainably strengthen your penis for better sex, for the long run, is to do it the natural way.

Mentally, these products may make you feel confident for a short period of time, but they’ll end up making you feel worse about yourself, and your ability to perform, because you used a crutch. You won’t be building authentic confidence because the results won’t have come from you organically, but from the product artificially.

On the physical level, pills and supplements have a tendency to make you so (sometimes painfully) hard that you actually lose temporary sensation in your penis to a large extent. I can’t attest to this personally but I have had over a dozen clients complain that the pills actually made them so hard that it hurt them so badly that they had to use ice packs to make their erections go down. So stay away!

I have had countless clients annihilate difficulties with erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation with the exercises you’re about to read about in this article. I repeat… if you only suffer from intermittent erectile dysfunction, you do NOT need pills or supplements!

Sharpen your own sword and you’ll grow confidence the natural way (by earning it!).

What You Need To Stop Doing To Strengthen Your Penis

A lifetime of poor sexual conditioning has made your pelvic floor muscles (and therefore your erections) weaker than they could be, and your sexual awareness less than ideal.

Everything from bad masturbation habits to poor relationship communication, lack of mindfulness, and poor diet and exercise, all kill your boners, big time.

With a few simple shifts in your lifestyle, you can go from lacklustre to lasting longer (and stronger) than ever before.

1. Remove Stressors From Your Life

A stressed lifestyle hits you right where it hurts.

When high levels of the stress hormone cortisol are flowing through your bloodstream, your sex drive drops like a rock, and it’s much harder for you to be present with your partner.

Stress also negatively affects your blood pressure and creates hypertension, which affects your overall cardiovascular health. This has a huge impact on the strength and endurance of your erections.

Want better boners? Here’s the first action step: remove any and all stressors in your life that you have control over.

Sure, life comes with built-in stress. We all have to work, and go through some hard times. But whether you see it or not, there are plenty of things throughout the week you are actively choosing to pile on, rather than working smart to minimize the stress you take on.

Do you really need to be working those extra hours of overtime? Are you sure you need to be loading up your body with fast food and coffee/energy drinks/caffeine? Are there any extra responsibilities being thrown at you that you can politely decline taking on?

If you’re feeling overwhelmed with a packed schedule, you need to learn how to say NO and drop the fear of missing out (FOMO). All too often, people say “yes” to things because they don’t want to disappoint their boss, or let their friends down. They sacrifice their own health and sanity to manage the perceptions and feelings of other people, and avoid looking bad. This only ends up ruining their lives.

Don’t let passivity and people pleasing destroy your sex life. Protect your time and lower your stress by skipping unnecessary projects and social events. The more relaxed and balanced of a lifestyle you have, the better you will perform sexually.

Adding some intense workouts in the mix helps to alleviate stress and raise the presence of sex-boosting chemicals in your body. Your penis, and your partner, will thank you for it.

(Remember… for less stress in your life, you want more fun, play, and socializing… less grinding, hustling, and overtime)

2. Stop Watching Porn

If you’ve read any of my articles in the past you know that I’m a big fan of quitting pornography. And not from a moralistic stand point. But simply from an erectile strength point of view.

Multiple studies have come out that document the fact that excessive (or even moderate) porn usage negatively affects your erectile strength and ability to become aroused with your significant other.

Masturbating to porn literally trains your dick to respond only to excessive, digital stimulus. You lose all sensitivity to nuance and the pleasures of realistic intimacy. As we’ll mention later, it also creates unfair expectations for sexual performance, which causes anxiety that also leads to erectile issues.

So if you really want to strengthen your penis, cut out the porn, and over the course of the next few weeks you will see your erectile strength increasing steadily.

3. Stop Racing Towards Ejaculation

Sometimes quickies are amazing, but if your method of operation is to masturbate and race to ejaculation as quickly as possible then you’re missing out on a lot of prime penis strengthening time.

We’re going to retrain the way your body relates to orgasms by focusing on stamina instead of speed. I’ll go into depth regarding this near the end of the article, but suffice it to say that if you make it over the five minute hump then (as you will soon find out) it will be the fastest way to grow and strengthen your penis (and therefore erections) available to you.

What You Need To Do Mentally To Strengthen Your Penis

1. Recognize Anxious Thoughts

Listen to your internal dialogue as you start to get physical with your partner.

Do your thoughts leap to “I hope I’ll perform well this time” or “Come on penis, get up!”?

If they do, then this internal battle is not helping your little guy spring into action. This is false and totally unnecessary stress, fabricated by your own mind. You’re setting negative expectations for what’s about to happen, which your body responds to and makes into a reality.

Another way to think about it is that your libido is like a freight train. In other words, it needs to gain momentum. It takes everyone some time to become physically ready to have sex. Drop the weight of the pressure. Relax and be patient with yourself. Take your time with foreplay. Let go and focus on the sensations that your body is feeling.

Besides, “performing” isn’t what sex is really about. When you think about it like this, it can feel like stepping onto a stage in front of a crowd of people waiting to be entertained. Sex should be a moment-by-moment, fluctuating exploration and expression of your passion and intimacy, not a circus act with paying customers.

Remember, sex is much more about feeling and about experiencing pleasure than it ever is about performing.

2. Name The Elephant In The Room

If erectile dysfunction (even infrequent E.D.) has been a semi-consistent pattern for you, make sure that you let your partner in on it.

If you feel some shame around the issue, it may be awkward the first time you bring it up. But suffering in silence doesn’t help either one of you. Hiding it only adds to the mental pressure and makes your situation even worse.

In fact, many women will fill-in-the-blank and assume it’s because you don’t find them attractive. All they want to do is support you and make you feel comfortable, so they would much rather you be honest. The quicker you can name the elephant in the room, the better it is for both of you.

Being vulnerable and honest when communicating with your partner removes obstacles to intimacy and makes you feel radically more safe, connected, and attracted. These kinds of conversations will relieve 90% of the performance anxiety you experience, and allow you to be more in the moment and get out of your head.

Don’t underestimate the massive power of telling the truth.

3. Realize That Porn Has Misled You

People are generally aware of the level of trickery that goes into major blockbuster Hollywood films (like Transformers), but what people often don’t know is that porn is just as fake.

Having known several people who have worked in porn (on and off the camera) I can assure you that the seemingly stallion-like men that appear in porn don’t operate like that in real life. On a real porn set, the performers stop and start frequently and can even edit several weeks of filming into one scene.

So yes, it is entirely possible to last for hours on end. But the expectation that you should be able to have sex four hours straight without even temporary breaks throughout? Extremely unrealistic.

It’s completely natural to go partially soft during sex. Don’t think that because the guys in porn (seem like they) don’t take breaks that you shouldn’t be.

Above all, remember to let go of the performance mindset. It is 100% okay to go limp mid-sex session. It happens to everyone. It’s all part of the natural arousal cycle. Also, don’t forget… your mouth and hands still work! These are the perfect times for you to switch to other kinds of stimulation to give yourself a break, mix up the fun, and build more arousal.

What You Need To Do Physically To Strengthen Your Penis

1. Kegels

Kegel exercises (flexing and holding the muscles that stop the flow of urine – often referred to as the PC/pubococcygeus/pelvic floor muscles) are a great way to begin reconnecting yourself with your genitals.

We are so disconnected from our sexuality and our penises in our daily lives that even a few quick pulses can remind us that we are sexual beings.

While simple kegel exercises won’t give you a six pack in your pants, they are a great first step. Try these out for a couple of weeks in increasing levels of difficulty (greater number of pulses, or longer holds) and you’ll be on your way to a stronger and firmer erection in no time.

Doing kegels during sex is also a great way to delay ejaculation and control arousal when you get too fired up. When you feel yourself getting close to orgasm, back off on stimulation and give your PC muscle a solid squeeze. After you take a moment, you should be good as new and ready to jump right back into it.

2. Power Kegels

To take your kegels up a notch, masturbate to arousal and drape dry hand towels over your penis and do modified pull ups. Flex your PC muscle to make your cock bounce and lift the towel(s).

Once this gets easier, make the hand towels wet with water, and then graduate to small beach towels after that. (Side note: for ease of implementation I have a client who always keeps a few small washcloths in his shower so that he can soak them, do a few sets of exercises, and then hang them up to dry in the shower.)

Do these exercises twice a week for separate sessions of ten minutes and you will noticeably strengthen your penis within a few weeks. Remember what I said earlier in the article? It’s a common misconception that you can’t grow your penis naturally. While your penis isn’t entirely a muscle, depending on your genetic make up, your penis is made up of somewhere between 30-60% smooth muscle tissue and grows or shrinks depending on how you use it. So if you work it out, it will get stronger.

And remember to take days off in between your kegel sessions. Just like any other muscles on your body, the muscles of your pelvic floor actually strengthen in days of rest (not during the exercises themselves).

(If you want to go to the next level and learn how to fuck like a rockstar on ecstasy, check out Supercharge Your Sex Life).

3. Penetrate Your Life & Get Shit Done

Your penis is like a barometer for how confident you feel in your life as a whole. If your sexual essence is soft and limp, then so is your drive in other areas.

If you want to get harder, then act harder. Build mental toughness to push through the resistance you feel toward working out, staying on-task with work, or tackling simple errands. Start facing into the tough conversations and situations that you keep putting on the back-burner.

As you do this, you’ll feel more effective and alive, which then amplifies the self-confidence feedback loop. Completing tasks activates the dopamine pathways in your brain, which are crucial to the process of getting erections.

This confidence projects out into the world and alters your mindset in surprising ways. You’ll notice a spike in your sexual appetite and a natural desire to be more dominant in the bedroom, which shows up in the quality of your erections.

4. Masturbation Without Porn

First, to begin your reconnection with your cock, masturbate without the use of porn. Porn is an external stimulus that takes your mind off of your body and into the realm of being an observer. By cutting out porn and being pushed to simply feel the sensations, you will start to re-sensitize to your body.

So the more awareness you have of what your physical level of arousal is the more control you will have over your erections and ejaculations with your partner.

5. The “9-5 Technique”

This is by far the best exercise to strengthen your penis while simultaneously upgrading your sexual stamina to master-level. This is self-love on steroids.

Masturbate to arousal (without porn) and change the intensity of your manual stimulation. This way, you can keep your sexual arousal rising and falling between a 5 and a 9, on the 1-to-10 scale.

For simplicity’s sake let’s say that a 5 is where you are still quite erect but your mind has calmed down quite a bit, and a 9 is nearing the point of no return but staying a safe distance away from it so you can ease back down to a 5.

You want to continue this rising and falling pattern between 9 and 5 for at least 20 minutes. It might sound like a lot, but I promise that once you make it past five minutes, it gets easier. Plus, how you practice is how you perform. The longer you can last while masturbating, the longer you’ll last with a partner.

Have patience with yourself, and realize that with each round of 9-5 that you do, you become more aware of your sexual arousal arch, your penis gets stronger, and you gain more control over your ejaculatory response… all of which equal you being a better love with greater sexual stamina. You will even notice results with your partner after just one or two sessions.

(Want to hear more about the 9-5 technique, along with four other techniques that will help you last longer in bed? Check out my 5 Guaranteed Ways To Last Longer In Bed bonus video, taken from my Supercharge Your Sex Life video program.)

6. Deep Breathing

If you ever need to speed up your ejaculation, tense as many of your major muscle groups as possible and hold your breath. If you ever want to slow down and elongate your sexual session, relax your muscles and breathe deeply into your belly.

Shallow breathing and tensing muscles are byproducts of lacking presence and rushing toward ejaculation. Break these counterproductive habits by slowing down and bringing more mindfulness into your sexuality.

One of the fastest ways to gain more control over your rising sexual arousal is deep breathing. Consciously check in with your body, take deep inhales into your belly, and relax all your muscles while focusing your attention on the various sensations your body is feeling.

Turns out the old “think of baseball” disassociation technique doesn’t do much good after all!

Strengthen Your Penis For Better Sex: Lasting Longer and Harder

Remember, your penis is like a barometer for how confident you feel in your life. If your sexual essence is soft and limp, then so is your drive in other areas of your life. While the strength and stamina of your cock are far from the only things that help you to be the best lover possible, it’s a good place to start for your sexual confidence.

Put in the work, strengthen your penis naturally by trying out a few of the exercises, and your partner will thank you. Or better yet, check out this video series called Supercharge Your Sex Life that will help you strengthen your penis, last longer in bed, satisfy your partner more deeply than you may ever have before (and a whole lot more!).

Ps. If you enjoyed this article, you’ll also love checking out…

– How To Last Longer In Bed (9 Simple Exercises)

– Strengthen Your Erections At Home With The Phoenix Pro (Review)

– Supercharge Your Sex Life (video series for men, where I go a LOT deeper into this topic)

About Jordan Gray

Jordan Gray has been a sex and relationship coach for over 15+ years, with his work reaching over 200 million people worldwide. His writing has been featured in Vogue, GQ, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, and countless other publications around the world. When he’s not working with 1-on-1 coaching clients or writing a new article, he’s most likely to be found reading, chopping wood, or spending time with his wife on a little island off the west coast of Canada.