Eating pussy like an absolute god is simple. You just have to do a couple of small things differently (that 99% of guys never do) in order to be her absolute best lover.
Ready to deliver her intense pleasure that will make her toes curl in ecstasy? Are you ready to have her shouting your name in a way that wakes the neighbours?
After reading this article, this is the kind of power you will be wielding.
Over the last 10+ years, I’ve talked to hundreds of women and countless sex experts to get their feedback and expertise on this area, and I’ve compiled all the following data, so that any man can turn from zero to bonafide hero when it comes to eating pussy.
And here’s the even better news: So few men are skilled at doing this, that even just reading this one time will likely put you in the top 1% of cunnilingus masters.
First, we’re going to take a brief tour of the anatomical territory, so you know your way around the vulva.
Then, we’ll cover foreplay, and why this is often the most important part of eating pussy (which few guys ever think about).
After we cover the basic “how-to’s” of eating pussy, we’ll look at some more advanced techniques you can experiment with, as well as the most common mistakes guys don’t even know they’re making, so you know the key things to avoid (this one section alone will set you far apart from the pack).
By the end, you’ll have a master’s degree in cunnilingus.
The Porn Problem: How The Way You’ve Been Eating Pussy Has Been Warped By Your Intake Of Pornography
Hey, quick note… I’m not against porn for any moralistic reasons. In fact, porn can have benefits!
But, if you are a man who is currently over age of 10 years old, it is highly likely that you have viewed and consumed your fair share of pornography. And the problem with that, when it comes to eating pussy well, is the fact that porn isn’t produced for the porn performers pleasure… it’s shot so that it looks good on camera.
So while porn may have told you to spit on her vulva… finger her aggressively right away with two fingers… or only spend less than 30 seconds tonguing her down, porn has lied to you.
Eating pussy is less about making her climax as quickly as possible (or just licking her for a minute so that she’s ‘wet’ with your saliva), and more about slowly pouring your full love and attention into her body. So keep that in mind throughout your journey of taking this article in.
The Vulva Breakdown: Highlights Of Female Anatomy
Depending where you go for sex advice, you’ll see a lot of different parts included in the anatomical breakdown of the vulva, including all sorts of letters and mythical “spots” that trigger different orgasms.
Here, I’m only going to include the necessary and actually proven bits. With this general map and basic knowledge, you’ll be able to navigate around like a seasoned pro.
So, let’s go from top to bottom, then head inside…
*The mons pubis is the triangular shaped pad of flesh on the front of the pelvis, between the abdomen and vagina. Besides being deceptively sensitive, since some of the clitoral network lies beneath it, it also serves several great sexual purposes.
The mons can be a good occasional resting place for your nose during oral. It also comes in very handy if you’re vigorously fingering her. You can place a palm on her mons and press down to create some secure leverage while rocking with the other hand.
*The clitoris is the oft misunderstood wishbone-shaped organ that runs on either side of the vaginal opening, and into the body, with a visible tip that sticks out up top. This small tip is what both men and women commonly mistake to be the whole thing, but there’s much more to it.
However, with over 8,000 nerve endings, that tip is certainly a focal point. The clitoris itself is responsible for triggering much of her body-rippling pleasure and superficial orgasms. But of course, there are deeper types that we’ll touch on in a second.
It’s good to note that the tip of the clitoris has essentially the same anatomy as the shaft of the penis, only it’s far smaller and doesn’t ejaculate. People often refer to it as a “doorbell” which misinforms how you would intuitively stimulate it, because you’d be thinking of it like a button. But like with a penis, if you just took a finger and rubbed the tip of it, you would be missing out on tons of potential stimulation. With a clitoris, you can also stroke the shaft, and generally get a little more creative with your methods.
Everything around (and inside) the vagina is incredibly soft. But the shaft of the clitoris has a firmer density to it. It almost feels like a small, half-inch long bar of cartilage covered by the…
*Clitoral hood, which is draped over top of the clitoris, keeping the clit protected and preserving sensitivity. It basically serves the same purpose as the male foreskin. This piece of flesh is a great landmark to make finding the clit much easier. Start from the mons pubis and trace downward. The clitoral hood is the first thing you’ll find. Peek underneath and – voila – behold the clitoris!
*Labia majora are the first outer lips of the vagina. Behind these are the two arms of the clitoris that run down from above. Especially during foreplay, this can be a great area to massage, or softly stroke just inside the lip.
*Labia minora are the next set of lips as you move inward, closer to her vaginal opening. They look remarkably like two rose petals protruding from the centre of the vagina. Sizes vary greatly from woman to woman, but they will usually be the part that sticks out the farthest, by a good margin.
*The vagina is the actual opening and canal for penetration and birthing. When she’s aroused, it lengthens a bit, to an average size of 5-6 inches (which is the average size of the male penis… Coincidence?)
Teasing around the opening of the vagina with your fingers, or tongue, can be extremely pleasurable. But just inside is something else very exciting…
*The G-spot. This is a notoriously powerful erogenous zone, about two knuckles deep on the upper inside wall of the vagina. When she’s aroused, the G-spot becomes easy to find with your fingertip. The centre of it feels like a pad of spongey tissue, about the size of a quarter, but it’s more of a tube shape that extends a bit further back and forth.
This bunch of tissue is actually part of the underground clitoral network, which is why stimulating it produces such strong orgasms, and, in some women, squirting ones. The G-spot tends to produce deeper and more intense climaxes than superficial clitoral stimulation alone. During oral, using a finger in this area is a phenomenal pair with oral attention on the clit.
*The Cervix is the last stop at the end of the vaginal tunnel. It’s the opening to the uterus. If your middle finger is long enough, you just might be able to feel it with the tip. Amongst all the soft, juicy vaginal walls, it has a firm, tight ring shape. It’s what it might feel like to rub a belly button from the inside. More often than not, you’ll need a dildo, large penis, or other sex toy, to stimulate it.
In each woman, the sensitivity and pleasure of the cervix will vary wildly, especially during different parts of her cycle. For some women, it will be a no-go zone at all times. For others, it might be the gateway to several minute-long, full-body orgasms. It just depends. Since it gets more sorely sensitive closer to her period, the best time to try is during the first two weeks of her cycle.
In either case, it’s not a must-have for great oral, just a more advanced option. I’m including it because, if she does find it pleasurable, this could make her cum so hard she forgets her own name.
*Finally, the anus shall not be forgotten! Thought not every person will get off as much as another (or at all, depending on their attitude toward it) the opening to the rectum can be a wickedly sensitive place for a tongue or finger to explore during oral. Sitting an inch or so below her vaginal opening, it’s very easy to find.
So, this is the gist of her genital landscape. Now you’re ready to move into foreplay.
Eating Pussy Like A God: Tips For Foreplay
Here’s an iron clad truth that flies way over the heads of most men…
Foreplay is almost always the single most important part of eating pussy, and bringing a woman to orgasm.
Yes, that’s right: Often the most important part of eating pussy isn’t even the literal act of doing it.
I say “almost” and “often” because there will be the odd time where she is spontaneously raring to go, and diving right in will produce great results.
Otherwise, we have some effort to put in before the main course.
The techniques we’ll be using with our tongues and fingers are actually incredibly straight forward. It’s the priming of her physiology and getting her blood flowing that allow them to work their magic.
At first, there won’t be much response. But once you warm her up, the lightest touch can make her melt. Without this step, the rest won’t do much good. In fact, some things might even feel the exact opposite of pleasurable.
When you’re making a move, or it’s time to begin your loving service, keep things at a sensual, slow burn. Kiss her lots, slowly, and all over her body; focusing on her neck, shoulders, breasts, stomach, and thighs.
Use featherlight touch with your fingertips to trace lines across her skin – across her collarbone, down her arms, up her legs, around her thighs, etc. As you go, using a bit of dirty talk and painting a picture of what you want to do is another powerful way to wake up all parts of her.
To that same point, your foreplay can begin long before you’re with her in person. You could be teasing her via text that morning, or earlier that week. Get her mind excited and primed to be spoiled and ravished (you can try some of these tips from my Ultimate Sexting Guide).
In the moment, within your own body, you can imagine yourself moving in slow-motion – every touch, kiss, and lick being filled with intention. The majority of men and women are different in this way, especially over time in a relationship. Guys tend to get hot fast, and are immediately down to be sexual, whereas women more often like teasing, sensuality, effort, and build-up.
Respecting her body’s arousal process not only gets her blood flowing – opening her up for arousal and orgasm – but it also grounds her in the present moment and sensitizes her to the lightest touch, which leaves you tons of tactile room to play with and crank up the intensity.
When you’re taking off her clothes, remove each item one by one, without rushing it. Tease the newly exposed area.
And when your face finally does arrive at her crotch, leave her panties on for a bit. Kiss on the outside of any material before taking it off. Really take your time with the build up. For example, you might breathe hot air through the fabric of her panties, or gently lick and kiss her through them. Tell her how much you can’t wait to taste her pussy.
If you’ve done this stage well, when her panties do finally come off, she might already be dripping wet, before you’ve even done any direct genital stimulation.
Once the panties are off, don’t go straight for her clitoris. Take time kissing around her stomach, thighs, labia majora, and the mons pubis, which feels great when kissed and gently rubbed in circles.
At the same time, use your hands to stroke her thighs and stomach. At most, you might brush over her clit with your lips or tongue as you move from one spot to another, as a cheeky tease.
Eventually, when you do want to transition to actually eating her out, start with one big, slow, wet, wide-tongued lap from bottom to top of her vulva – or from the vaginal opening to where the mons pubis meets the clitoral hood.
From here, you’re ready to dive in.
(Side note: Remember… you have a mouth and two hands and a mind that can conjure up words. You want to be everywhere on her. Always with a calm, measured pace… you want to be touching, loving, and gently stimulating her body all over… during foreplay and during the time you’re going down on her. Be infinite. Overwhelm her beautiful body with layers of unpredictable pleasure.)
The Sexiest Positions For Eating Pussy
A major component in erotica is the energy and dynamic beneath everything. And when it comes to eating pussy, the positions you use are a big accent. Some might make you feel more turned on and ravenous, while another might do the same for her, or make her feel more dominant, or submissive.
If you follow your animalistic instinct, there are no shortages of positions in which you can eat pussy. But here are five of the greatest hits to consider trying out.
1. Home base
This is the classic and often most comfortable position for both people. The woman lies on her back, with knees bent, and the man is either on his knees (maybe at the edge of the bed, chair, or couch) or laying face down between her legs. Women love this position because they get to fully relax their body and focus completely on receiving pleasure from their man. This is also an ideal position to introduce a finger for G-spot stimulation.
2. Face sitting
The woman straddles your head, looking at you, with her feet pointing towards your feet. For the man, this is a gloriously delicious position. You get delectable handfuls of her ass, and a great view of her breasts and face. Meanwhile, the woman gets to feel a little more dominant, in control, and wild – being on top – and can rock back and forth as she pleases. If you have neck problems, face sitting is a particularly great position to use, as you get to keep a relaxed, neutral spine.
3. Reverse face sitting
Take the last position and flip the woman 180 degrees, so she’s facing your feet. It’s as if you were in the 69 position and she sat straight up. This also gives you much better access for playing with her breasts. If reciprocating oral turns her on even more, it’s fine to slip into a full 69. But, generally, you want this experience to be 100% for her, without any neural distractions from the stimulation you’re providing.
4. The leg up
From the home base position, the woman puts one or both of her legs up over your shoulder, and from here, she can rest her feet on your back. Or, her feet can just dangle in the air, while you keep your hands on her thighs to assist her in fighting gravity.
5. The sidewinder
With the woman on her back, the man kneels next to her, facing toward her feet, and leans down to eat her out at a diagonal angle. For extended periods of time, this one is also better for your neck, since you don’t have to look up, or make any kinks in it.
You get to look down at her pussy, and she still gets the view of your mouth, without the need for any eye contact, which some women might want to avoid so they can just focus on their pleasure and receiving.
Eating Pussy 101: The Foundational Tips
Now that you know the positions and she’s feeling warmed up, you can start moving towards direct, steady stimulation.
When using your tongue, it’s always best to keep it flat, wide, and relaxed, rather than making pointed stabbing motions.
Start by maintaining your restraint and making syrupy-slow licks up against the clit, as though you were having a romantic make out in slow motion.
Both in pressure and speed, consistency matters.
In the beginning stages, from foreplay to direct stimulation, the biggest things guys overlook is subtlety, because women’s experience of pleasure can often be so vastly different.
Since we tend to like it hard, hot, and heavy from start to finish, it’s easy to think that she’s having an amazing time if you bring intensity with long stamina. But really, she might be able to get off way harder, and way more, if you went SUPER slow, and turned it up just a little from time to time.
For pressure, you shouldn’t be pushing or leaning in at all, at least at the beginning stages of stimulation. Just solid contact from your tongue and the texture of your taste buds will be plenty good. You might add a bit more later on, but probably not much.
What will change a lot is speed. As with pressure, you can work up over time, but for now, let her body acclimate to a slow, steady stream of sensation and build up her arousal. Then you can gradually start working up to a crescendo.
At first touch, or when you switch something she likes, her nervous system will have an initial little “whoa!” moment, or hit of pleasure, and then settle back down. Then as you stick with that same lick/stroke/touch, it’s almost like you’re creating a sealed, pressurized container.
The feeling of neurological arousal building under consistent stimulation feels like swelling pressure building up inside her system. Eventually, it usually hits a natural tipping point into orgasm, or takes a little push of higher intensity.
If you’re ever unsure of when to switch pace, you can always test by gradually increasing (or decreasing) for a few seconds, and pay attention to how she responds. If she moans or arches her back, that’s a good sign to keep on truckin’ with whatever change you just made.
After some practice, this knack for calibrating to her body becomes like a sixth sense. But never underestimate the power of listening deeply to her body. Eating pussy like a god is just as much about paying her body your deepest attention as it is about technique or specific positions.
For now, keep your wide, relaxed tongue licks slow and steady. From the home base position, you might add some accents with touch, by squeezing her thighs, or running your hands up either side of her torso, or grabbing her breasts. Rub and explore her body, and match the slow pace and energy of your hands to your oral.
After a few minutes, you might choose to notch things up by gently parting and pulling back the clitoral hood, which exposes more of the clitoral tip to your tongue, thereby increasing the amount of sensation.
How you do this depends on the position you’re in. From home base, you might wrap your left arm under and around her thigh to place your thumb and forefinger on either side of the clitoris, with fingers pointing downward, and spread lightly. Or you might place both of your thumbs on either side with fingers pointing upward, and laid on her mons.
With the same quality of flat tongue, you can also try a stroke variation – from up and down to slight circles. This one tiny change can create a huge difference on her end.
You can practice doing it right now. Place the tip of your tongue behind your bottom teeth, then push the back of your tongue forward so the middle touches the spot where the roof of your mouth meets the back of your front teeth.
The middle part of your tongue is what will be the main point of contact with the clitoris. Start by moving from side to side, then begin to make circles, as if you were tracing an ‘O’ with that spot on the centre of your tongue.
To check your speed, you can look at a running count on a stop watch. You might start by making one complete circle every two seconds, then speeding up to one second, or slightly faster. When done naturally in the moment, it should just feel like you’re making out with her clit, with a bit of tongue rotation.
Communication, by the way, always has a place here. It’s not “more manly” to just guess what’s working and solely rely on your intuitive calibration. If you think she’s responding well to something, verbally confirm that she likes it, in a naughty way (ie. “Do you like that baby?” in a saucy tone, rather than saying “Uhm, is that okay?” like a pubescent freshman).
If you feel like she’s not responding, it’s important to get out of your head and reconnect with her. You don’t want to get caught up in wondering whether she’s enjoying it, or worrying that what you’re doing isn’t good enough. Talk. Check in to see if she’s having a good time, and what she would love for you to do (making sure that your tone is asking from a place of love and curiosity, and not from an attachment to needing her to cum – the latter of the two being a desire born of insecurity and ego).
And women say themselves that their bodies can be fickle – changing preferences from one day to the next. Or feeling in the zone, then not feeling it. Something what blows her mind one night might not feel good the next. In the moment, they’re the best judge of what’s hitting the spot and what’s not. So use that to your advantage!
When it comes to orgasm, you’ll feel it coming on very obviously. You might feel a few slow pulsing contractions begin around the vulva. You’ll likely feel her hips rock deeper, accompanied with quicker breath and a bracing “oh fuck, oh my god.”
When you feel the wave coming: Do. Not. Stop.
Literally, even if she’s arching so hard that her mons pubis is being forced into your nostrils and you can’t breathe, summon every drop of your warrior energy and hold steady with whatever you’re doing. You could amp things up 10 to 15%, but don’t overdo it. Too drastic of a change breaks that container we talked about, and releases some of the pressure; distracting her body from the momentum it was just gaining toward climax.
Like men, women have a refractory period post-orgasm, which means their genitals become hyper sensitive for a bit and need a break before any further stimulation. Women’s, however, is much, much shorter. They’re naturally wired for multiple orgasms (that number could range from a couple to several dozen. It all depends on the woman and the session).
When she does hit climax, you can either A) slowly back off with your tongue entirely to simply kiss the area around her clit and caress her stomach and thighs with your hands, or B) hold your tongue completely still against her clit. Option B could potentially cause some good aftershocks, as she wiggles and gets the subtle rub from a few of your taste buds.
It should be said as well that women’s orgasms can last much longer than men’s orgasms. Which means you don’t necessarily have to completely back off and stop right when she starts coming. Because she might be able to ride the peak of the wave anywhere from ten seconds to a few minutes. A little bit of consistent stimulation during the orgasm (though still a bit slower) can be the solid push that keeps it going. You’ll have to read her. But if she doesn’t like it she’ll instinctively grab your hand or back her body away from your mouth to create a break from the stimulation.
Starting back up could happen in a matter of seconds, or it might take her a couple of minutes. You’ll have to learn that through experience with the partner you have. Depending on how deep her orgasm was, she might feel “complete” after one of them. But quite often, if it was solely clitoral from oral stimulation, she’ll warmly welcome you back in for more.
The safest way to play this position is to go back to starting nice and slow, and quickly calibrating to see where she’s at.
If her arousal was on a scale 1-10, she’s not resetting back to a 1 or a 2. So you don’t have to take as much time. She will likely be somewhere in the range of 6 to 9.
Sometimes, diving back in right away is exactly the thing that will cause her have another, even stronger orgasm. But it takes a developed intuition and awareness of your specific partner to do this well.
So, for now, go back to taking it nice and easy – about a medium-slow pace. Feel her body, and listen to her breath and vocalizations.
Remember to not carry any expectations for her to even come in the first place, let alone multiple times. Just be in the moment, lick for the love of the pussy, and follow the flow wherever it goes. Sometimes, it might just be a super nice and pleasurable session for her. Other times she’ll be cranking out orgasms. No matter what happens, as long as she had fun, it’s all good.
Above all else, when you’re eating pussy, you want to: Take. Your. Time.
Women are very used to feeling rushed, so don’t be that guy. Settle in – physically and mentally – like you’ll be there for hours. And do this in a way that feels good for you. If your body isn’t comfortable, and your mind isn’t into it, she will feel that. Your engagement and pleasure start a feedback loop with her own.
Play all these cards right, and she will adore how insane your ninja-level pussy eating skills are.
Eating Pussy 201: Advanced Techniques
– Use your hands.
This is a massive accent to boosting her pleasure during oral. After working her up with your tongue, you can take the tip of your index finger and lightly tease her vaginal opening. See if you can line up the rhythm of the circle with the laps of your tongue. This touch alone can quickly trigger an orgasm.
The next step would be moving into the G-spot. Again, teasing and anticipation are HUGE in compounding her pleasure. So don’t rush into it. Work your finger in slowly.
With your index or middle finger in the “come hither” gesture, and using no pressure at all, go no more than a knuckle deep and slowly wag your finger to stroke the upper wall at the entry to her vagina.
Then, inch your way a little deeper until you can feel the G-spot. The surface texture of the tissue you feel will suddenly change from silky smooth to spongey and porous. As you make the same wagging motion, gently drag your fingertip along the G-spot toward the entry of her vagina.
This whole sweet spot feels like a swollen tube, which you’ll notice runs a little deeper past the main spongey area. So, she’ll also love it if you go a bit further up and begin your stroke from there.
She may also love it when you put your finger in as far as it goes and maintain a deep wagging motion there. It might also be that she wants you to press in and hold for a bit.
As with your tongue, keep any strokes consistent and light at first, and calibrate to her when building up any intensity to see if it’s going to take her somewhere. You can also tease her once in a while by backing your finger off to the opening, and tease her before going back to G-spot stimulation.
Beyond the vagina, you can do basically the exact same process with her anus – using the fingertip for a superficial tease, or penetration.
You can also be using your hands to play with her nipples, legs, ass, or softly pinch around her clitoris to expose it even further into your mouth.
– Light suction.
Besides the main licking techniques with a wide, flat tongue. You can bring in this suction technique for a much bigger contrast.
Make an ‘O’ shape with your mouth and place it around her clit. Lightly suck on it, kind of like you would try to pull a milkshake through a thick straw. Along with the slow rhythm to your suction, you might try alternating pressure to see what feels best.
For the next level, perform this suction technique while licking her clit with your tongue as you suck. If her clitoris is extra sensitive, then primarily focus on licking the clitoral hood from side to side.
– Mons pressure.
Applying pressure to her mons pubis can help stimulate a deeper part of her clitoris from the outside, almost like an external G-spot massage.
While using your tongue on her clit, take the pads of all four fingers on one hand and massage circles around the deeper, fleshy part of the mons. Steady, still pressure can also feel nice, but some circular rhythm is generally your best bet.
– YOUR grooming.
This is more of a next-level suggestion of something to consider. Men’s facial hair can be irritating to a woman’s sensitive bits. Clean shave the hair beneath your lower lip (aka ‘the soul patch’) as well as any extra long moustache hairs hanging down over your upper lip, as these spots are the most likely to irritate her.
How To Make It Even Sexier
– Invite her to be more active.
Encourage her to move her hips in order to change the angle and pressure (regardless of whether or not she is sitting on your face). If you have hair, get her to grab it and use it like the reins on a horse. She can pull and squeeze to let you know when she wants more pressure, or when she’s loving it.
– Tie her up.
A little bondage is always a fun idea, especially when it comes to receiving intense clitoral stimulation. On a neurological level, it will drive her wild. But it also emphasizes the dominance and submission dynamic of such a vulnerable act.
Try tying her arms to your bed posts, or to each other. You don’t need to invest in some fancy straps (unless that turns your crank.) Regular ol’ neckties make the perfect restraints. They’re soft on the skin and versatile for many types of bondage. Blindfolds are also a great idea to work in here.
– Bust out the oil.
Get out the massage oil and rub her breasts while you go down on her. As part of your foreplay, you could even use this to perform a light sensual body massage to take things to the next level.
What Most Men Do Wrong While Eating Pussy
This list of mistakes that guys make will help you steer clear of any interruptions in her ecstasy.
– Rushing. Many guys don’t come into this with the mindset of actually spending time, honouring her body, and giving her pleasure. They treat it like a means to an end. It’s either a quick checkpoint on the way to penetrating her (and making it all about him again) or aggressively trying to draw an orgasm out of her (again, for the selfish sake of his own ego).
– Not actually enjoying it. What allows this to be enjoyable for her is starting by feeling your enjoyment for doing it. She should almost feel like you’ve been starving for days and her pussy is dessert. Oral is something you savour and relish, not a chore you tolerate.
On that note, it’s good to know that many women are self-conscious about their vulvas, and feel shy when you look directly at it. So, settling in, complimenting her vulva, and showing your enthusiasm for being down there is actually quite a healing act for many women.
– Doing the “alphabet technique.” I don’t know who invented this, but it was DEFINITELY not a woman. Tracing the alphabet with your tongue does everything you’re not supposed to do. You’re all over the map, with no consistency or rhythm, and you’re using the firmed tip of tongue with stabbing motions. If you ever hear one of your friends give this advice, shake your head and share this article with him!
– Missing the clit. Most guys just straight up don’t know their basic vulva anatomy. They think it’s all one button you can just prod and lick around on to achieve results. They don’t target their focus in the right places with the right awareness and technique.
– Too much intensity. Especially as she gets closer to climax, a lot of guys get the instinct to speed up way too much, or add tons of pressure. As we talked about, subtlety and consistency are key for women. Otherwise, you’re just causing discomfort.
– Being too heady. Guys can get stuck in their heads and try to follow some sexual script instead of using their bodies to calibrate to hers, and listening to her cues – both verbal and physical. Everything we talked about are tools in a toolbox, and you’re just the artist. There’s no sure-fire, one-sided process to achieve results. You have to be there, feeling it out with her, and listening deeply to her body’s arousal rhythms.
– Being too sensitive. A lot of guys are either too rigid or covertly insecure to handle taking feedback from her. Their egos are fragile. As long as she’s offering it in a kind way, any corrections or suggestions she gives are a gift. She’s training you to understand her body, and women’s at large, better. Take it with gratitude. Your goal is to bring her pleasure… not to be perfect and do everything right. So hear her feedback through the correct filter, and take your ego out of the equation.
– Not using their hands. When it comes to the act of eating pussy, the tongue and mouth are great, but they have limited potential. You can add variety of stimulation by using your fingers and hands to touch other parts of her body, and play with her vagina or anus.
Congratulations! You’ve Graduated
Alright, stand up and get over here to accept your degree. Man, I’m tearing up. I’m just so proud of you for being so committed to the art of eating pussy, and giving your partner an amazing erotic experience.
Just by having this information rattling around in your brain, you’ve hugely upgraded your oral skills. But in practice, as you get a feel for her body, and learn what it feels like to bring her to a few orgasms, you’ll quickly be able to reach Jedi Knight of eating pussy status.
To recap, here’s all you need to remember:
Always emphasize the foreplay stage. Remember that it likely takes her whole body much longer to switch on than yours will. Use those hands, lips, and tongue on everything else before you reach the clit. You could even imagine working from the outside in – from hands and feet, up the arms and legs to her neck, breasts, and stomach, and finally the vulva.
And I’m not talking 5-10 seconds. More like 5-10 minutes, or more.
From there, it’s: Sensuality, subtlety, and consistency.
Visualize thick, slow-moving honey and think “slow and in control”. Give each style of stroke with the tongue or finger some time to build up pressure through steady stimulation.
Lightly test the waters with different techniques or intensities for a few seconds and calibrate to her body’s response. Hold steady when she’s about to climax, and give her a 5-10 second break before diving back in (if she wants you to.)
After just a few sessions of eating pussy with these tips in mind, you’ll have a swagger in your step like you share a house with the Greek gods on Mount Olympus.
Dedicated to your success,
Jordan
Ps. If you enjoyed this article on eating pussy, you will likely also love checking out:
– Supercharge Your Sex Life (video series for men, that helps you become a present, engaging, loving, super-connected and powerful lover in the bedroom)
– 50 Powerful Sex Tips For Men
– How To Give A Woman A Sensual Massage
– Slow Sex: How To Magnify Your Sexual Pleasure
– How To Give An Expert-Level Pussy Massage (aka Yoni Massage)
