Posts with tag sex

Although this is the first time I’ve written about it publicly, the issue of sexual abuse is one that is very important to me. I have had multiple friends and lovers who have had sexual abuse in their past (either early childhood or later in life) and, with the average statistic saying that 1 in 3 women...

While sexual technique is certainly a part of every amazing lovers skill set, it’s mayyyyybe worth 10-20% of the entire package. Because the truth is… when it comes to being an amazing lover, your presence, passion, and desire for your lover will trump that twirly tongue thing you can do ten times out...

I’ve written about sex exercises for men in the past, but not like I’m about to today. A lot of men have nerves/anxiety around their sexual performance because they aren’t sure if they’ll be able to have the level of control over their bodies that they hope for. Which makes it so vital to remember the...

There is a serious affliction sweeping the world. People are fucking. But that’s not the bad news. Not at all. The bad news is they’re fucking like they don’t give a fuck. Imagine being on a Hawaiian beach for a visually stunning sunset… but standing with your back to it. Imagine being offered the...

Have you ever had the experience of walking into a room and seeing dozens of people having sex with each other? Well, until last year, I hadn’t. My heart was pounding on the way to the venue. My girlfriend (at the time) and I made small talk with our cab driver to take our minds off of the fact...

Is your sub-par sex life seriously sucking as of late? Do you wish you had sex more often with your significant other? Do you wish you both spent more time on foreplay? Do you wish that, just once, your partner would be the one to initiate sex? Here’s a novel idea… Ask them. No matter how emotionally...

If you’ve been reading my articles for any length of time you’ll likely know that I’m a huge fan of self-reflecting… especially when it comes to our sex lives. One exercise that I have a lot of my clients go through is setting aside an hour and writing down what their ideal sex life looks like. It’s...

"How do I get my partner to initiate sex with me more often?" This is one of a handful of questions that I get asked on a weekly basis that makes me internally cringe. Why? Because, while I empathize with how bad it can feel to not have a sense of sexual connection with your partner, to me the question...

We are more wild, and more tender than we allow ourselves be in bed. Regardless of our gender, the range of our sexuality has been repressed, limited, and shamed into a corner since we were young. We are simultaneously tantalized and chastised. We are taught to suppress sexual desire… hide our bodies…...

Sexual desire for your partner ebbs and flows depending on your mood, the season, and how much effort you’ve been putting into your relationship lately. It’d be all too easy to blame waning sexual desire on the fact that you’ve been together for X number of months/years/decades… but really, sexual desire...