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No matter how many times I remind people of how imperfect I am (link, link, link, link, link), I still receive regular projections about how I must be (cue Beyonce voice) *flawless*. So it seems that an annual reminder is a valuable exercise in allowing myself to be seen more fully. When you’re a public...

Ejaculating too quickly can happen for many reasons. Maybe it was your first time with a new partner. Maybe you hadn't cum in a week and you had built up a lot of sexual energy. Or maybe you habitually indulge in intense mental fantasies, rather than being in the moment with someone. But premature...

Ejaculating isn't bad. Engaging in regular self-pleasure isn't bad. At all. Anyone who has read my writing long enough will know that I’m a shout-from-the-mountaintops kind of champion for engaging in a regular self-pleasure practice. But. Particularly for men, there are healthy and unhealthy limits....

From 2009 to 2015 I was heavily involved in the world of kink and BDSM. Why, you ask? The short answer is that I was a long-term recovering ‘nice guy’ (aka I was a doormat when it came to women) who was perpetually afraid of being seen as even slightly sexually aggressive. Because of this aspect of...

First of all, I’m sorry. I’m sorry for all of the pain that you’re feeling. I’m sorry that you don’t feel like you have a family. That you are somehow separate… unwanted… unloved. None of that is true. Your family loves you deeply. Your friends love you deeply. You are so wanted in this world. I...

Whether you're single, dating, or married, keeping some key female-friendly products in the nightstand will help you out in your sex life.  Thoughtfulness is not only sexy, but it's one of the main ingredients in any thriving intimate relationship. Anticipating and providing for her needs makes your...

Regular exercise has been proven time-and-time again to be one of the simplest, most important things anyone can do to create superhuman health, longevity, and brainpower. But, as trends in gym memberships show year after year, it also seems to be the hardest habit to develop and stick with on a regular...

Men are not born men. They become men through intention. To develop and integrate your masculinity, and truly feel like a man, you’ll have to put in particular types of effort in specific areas. Because, unlike pubic hair, masculinity and psychological maturity aren't automatic achievements you unlock...

Being a loving Dominant (Dom) is something you master over time, after much practice, creativity, and self-development. This article will help guide you on your path by defining the role, as well as giving tips and examples of how to work with your sub. First, what is BDSM? BDSM stands for...

There is more to being a great submissive (sub) than just doing what you're told. A good sub is someone who consciously surrenders control from an empowered position, and actively co-creates a positive climate of obedience. To be truly obedient and a great submissive, you need to first be deeply in...