Jul 24, 2024

7 Ways To Make Giving A Blowjob Easier On You

Looking to make giving a blowjob easier on you?

You’ve come to the right place.

As Samantha from Sex And The City once said, “They don’t call it a job for nothing.”

Being mindful of your teeth, navigating jaw tension, trying to breathe through your nose…

All while trying to maintain enough stamina so that when he climaxes, you still have enough energy in you that you don’t flub the big finish.

But what if there were a few simple tips that would help you make giving a blowjob easier on you? Like, far easier.

Well, today you’re in luck!

Here are seven simple ways to make giving a blowjob easier on you.

7 Simple Ways To Make Giving A Blowjob Easier On You

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1. Tell him that he’s going to get a blowjob ahead of time

This one may be simple, but it is deceptively powerful.

By telling him ahead of time (could be minutes before or even many hours before) that he’s going to get a blowjob later on, you let the anticipation build in his mind.

What does this do? It lets him get so built up about it that by the time the deed comes to pass, he’ll cum way faster.

I mean, just think about it. He’s about to head out for a big day at work and before he leaves the house you casually mention what you plan to do with him later on that evening. Now, he has all day to daydream about what he has coming his way.

If saying it to him directly feels too challenging, you can always text him about it, mid-day, and let the anticipation build that way.

2. Find a position that you feel maximally comfortable in

If you choose your blowjob position solely based on how it looks or feels for him, and not based on how it feels for you, you’re going to make blowjobs a lot harder than they need to be.

Perhaps you’ve never played around with different positions, and you’ve just been defaulting to the same one you did since you first went down on a guy. If that’s the case, then this might be the highest leverage tip for you in this whole article.

If you want some ideas of where to start, you can check out my articles on blowjob positions and handjob positions (they both have drawings of all of the positions) to find your perfect fit.

3. Use a flavored lube that you really enjoy

I’ll admit it – many flavored lubes taste horrendous. But if you’re willing to a) pay for something quality, and b) try a few until you find one you like, this can make the whole experience that much more enjoyable for you.

The flavored lube market expands every year, with more flavors hitting the shelves all the time. Want something that tastes like birthday cake? Your favorite candy? Pina Colada? They have it all.

Just make sure that you use a body-safe flavored lube and not an actual food item. I say this because some people think that they can just use whipped cream or chocolate syrup without having any potential downstream negative effects (for example, a yeast infection if you go from oral sex to vaginal penetration).

4. Let your hands do most of the work

Here’s a little secret I’ll let you in on…

If your hands are well lubricated, a warm mouth and sufficiently wet hands are nearly indistinguishable to an aroused penis. In fact, wet hands can often be more intensely stimulating than a mouth because of the directness of pressure they’re able to provide.

So whether you’re using two hands to stroke the majority of his shift and just occasionally putting your mouth on the head of his penis, or you’re using your hands to touch his testicles, scrotum, perineum, and anus, letting your hands literally do most of the work will give your jaw a well deserved break, and take a lot of the pressure off of you.

(Want to learn how to fall in love with giving blowjobs? Check out this bonus video interview featuring my wife and I, from our Queen of Blowjobs program, on this exact topic.)

5. Use a masturbation sleeve as the primary stroker

Here’s one you likely haven’t heard much of before.

For the uninitiated, a masturbation sleeve (also known as a stroker, or cock sleeve) is exactly what it sounds like: a sleeve made for masturbation. In other words, a piece of rubbery plastic that’s sole job is to provide pleasure to the man’s penis.

Some men have used these, but at this point in time, I would say that most haven’t. Which is great news for you, as you get to show him something new.

The benefit of the masturbation sleeve to you is that it takes pressure off of needing to use both of your hands (as you can use one hand to move the stroker up and down and provide stimulation to his entire penis shaft) and you also don’t need to squeeze as hard with your one hand, because the stroker does most of the work! What an invention!

You can find a variety of sleeves/strokers online at any quality sex toy store, or at your local high end sex store. These toys tend to be on the less expensive side, so you can get something quality for $10-40. Just make sure to get a stroker that is open ended on both sides (so that his penis head can poke through the other side and you can still provide stimulation with your mouth when you want to.

6. Give his balls a lot of attention

Most men absolutely adore having their balls and scrotum played with. And even more men adore having them played with in the back half of the blowjob, when they’re highly aroused.

Not only does giving his balls more attention heighten the pleasure and intensity of the experience for him, it also gives your jaw a break. In fact, you can either lick and/or suck his balls to give your jaw a break, or stimulate his balls with just your hands to give your mouth and jaw a break.

7. Save your big moves for the back half

Every woman who has had a few sexual partners has her back-pocket, trusted big blowjob moves. You know the one. The moves that push him into overdrive. Your unique talent. The one that make his eyes roll into the back of his head while he mumbles incoherently. It could be your absence of a gag reflex and accompanying deep throat talent. It could be drooling down his shaft and using your splayed out fingers to stimulate his balls and anus simultaneously.

Well, whatever your unique talent, I’m here to encourage you to save those moves for the back half of the blowjob.

Let yourself build up to those. Let the anticipation build so that he has that extra turbocharger to look forward to.

If you play those cards too early, you might tire out faster, and it might actually elongate his arousal arch.

So save your big moves for the back half. It lets you conserve your energy and it gives him something explosive to look forward to.

Want More Epic Blowjob Tips?

Alright, so you’ve learned how to make giving a blowjob easier, but do you want to learn to do it even better? Like, the best he’s ever had, by a landslide?

If you want to go even deeper into the realm of giving masterful, life-changing, wall-shaking, neighbour-waking blowjobs, I have just the thing for you.

My wife Demetra and I recently released a powerful online program called Queen of Blowjobs.

Since its release over 1,000+ women from all over the world have gone through it and seen amazing results.

Skillsets up-levelled… relationships strengthened… sex lives reinvigorated.

If you’re curious to learn more, I strongly encourage you to click this link to check out the program today. It might just be the greatest investment you ever made in your sex life.

Dedicated to your success,

Jordan

Jordan Gray
About Jordan Gray

Jordan Gray has been a sex and relationship coach for over 15+ years, with his work reaching over 200 million people worldwide. His writing has been featured in Vogue, GQ, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, and countless other publications around the world. When he’s not working with 1-on-1 coaching clients or writing a new article, he’s most likely to be found reading, chopping wood, or spending time with his wife on a little island off the west coast of Canada.

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