Jun 24, 2024

18 Sexiest Handjob Positions To Blow His Mind

A handjob’s a handjob. I mean… he can basically do it himself, amirite?

Nope. Wrong!

Comparing a guy jerking himself off to him receiving a masterful handjob is like comparing looking at a black-and-white image of a sunrise to waking up in a world-class resort overlooking the ocean with an elaborate mix of oranges, yellows, and pinks swirling about.

In other words, they are an entirely different universe.

A handjob done well can bring him to an experience of ecstasy that he has never had before.

And one of the biggest differences between a guy jerking himself off and you giving him a masterful handjob? The fact that you are there!

And one of the highest leverage ways you can make the act infinitely sexier from the get-go is simply this: the position you place yourself in.

Some of the following handjob positions are primarily about your comfort. Others are about intentionally playing with the power dynamic of the situation. Others are about maximizing his pleasure. And others still are about featuring your most attractive assets front and center so that he is positively overwhelmed with arousal and sexual stimulation.

Whether you’re looking to give him a quick one before bed, or you want to settle in for the long haul and really blow his mind, there’s something for everyone in this list of handjob positions.

And whether you love (or he loves) your breasts, your butt, your vagina, your legs, or even your stomach, there’s a handjob position for that too!

Without further ado, here are eighteen red-hot handjob positions that kick his sexual experience into overdrive.

18 Super Sexy Handjob Positions That Will Blow Him Away

1. The Standard

 

 

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In the standard handjob position, you position yourself between his legs.

From this position, you have full and easy access to his penis, testicles, legs, and upper body (if you lean forwards somewhat).

The benefit of this position is that it’s likely going to be one of the most comfortable for you (especially important if you want to elongate his experience). A potential downside of this position is that he won’t be able to touch your body with his hands as much as he might want to (but again, that could be a part of the power-play of it, as you deny him access to touching you… and you can tell him that you just want him to lie back and receive).

2. The Grinder

In the grinder handjob position, with your man lying on his back, you straddle one of his legs and face towards him.

If you and your partner are interested in simultaneous sexual stimulation, then slathering his leg up with a water based lubricant and grinding yourself against him while you touch his penis can be a wonderful experience.

3. The Connected Couple

Another way to engage in simultaneous stimulation is to straddle both of your partner’s thighs, while facing towards him, and having his penis near your vulva.

The proximity might be erotic enough for the two of you, or you can be more actively engaged by rubbing his penis against your vulva and/or clitoris.

4. The Pivot

 

 

With the pivot position, you simply sit, kneel, or lean on one arm on the side of his body.

This position allows for a bit more physical contact between the two of you than the standard position, and it also gives him easier access to touching you with his hands.

5. The Full Moon

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Of all of the handjob positions, this is one of the two most butt-featuring ones. So if your man loves your butt, definitely keep this on your go-to shortlist.

For the full moon, you simply kneel on either side of his body, with your face pointing towards his feet and your butt closer to his face.

I repeat – if your man adores your booty, he will be in heaven while he gets to grab, kiss, and caress you, while also being manually stimulated.

6. London Bridge

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For this position, your man will prop himself up on his knees, with some space between his legs, and you lay yourself underneath him, with your face generally underneath his genitals.

(If you’re wondering, it is called the London Bridge because of the shape that his legs create.)

In this pose, you get easy access to his testicles which you can lick or suck while you touch him, if you’re both into that.

This position also makes it super easy for your man to ejaculate on your breasts and/or stomach when he climaxes, so if that appeals to either/both of you, then that would also be a benefit of this particular position.

7. The 69

 

Ahh, the ol’ 69!

In this position, you lie on top of him while he stimulates your genitals with his hands and/or mouth, while you focus part of your attention on fondling his well-lubricated penis.

This position excels in a number of ways. While 69’ing, mutual satisfaction, great visuals, and overall physical connectedness get to happen all at the same time.

8. The Tittyfuck

 

In what is colloquially referred to as ‘tittyfucking’, you get to incorporate your breasts into the handjob action.

Truth be told? On blind sensation alone, breasts don’t feel as amazing against a man’s penis as hands do. The main reason being that hands can provide a lot more pressure and nuanced stimulation than breasts can.

But the visual and the idea of your breasts being incorporated into the sexual play is very hot.

If your man adores your breasts, this particular handjob position should be a regular in your sexual repertoire (just make sure you budget enough time to shower after, because their will be considerably more mess after you engage in this position).

9. Grounding Touch

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Similar to the previous handjob position, this one focuses more of the physical contact between your breasts and his testicles.

In this position, there’s no need to squeeze your breasts together and try to corral his slippery penis in between them. Rather, you press your breasts/chest against his testicles/perineum and let your hands do all of the work. One hand focuses more on the penis shaft, and the other can focus more on rubbing his testicles back and forth.

Again, for the man who loves your breasts, and/or loves feeling more physically connected to you while receiving a handjob, this position is a masterpiece.

10. The Rear View

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Behold! Another handjob position for the butt-lovers out there!

In this position, you straddle your man by sitting on his stomach, facing towards his feet, so that he can view/grab your butt with ease.

So long as being on your knees is comfortable for you, this position gives you ample opportunity to use both of your hands all over his genitals and lower body.

11. The Milking Table 

This is the only one of these 18 handjob positions that requires any specialized equipment. You can either purchase a pre-fabricated milking table (prices run anywhere from a couple hundred dollars to several thousand dollars, depending on who you buy from), or if you’re especially… handy (pun totally intended) then you can build your own setup.

You’ve heard of glory holes right? The hole in the wall that men stick their penises through? The milking table is essentially that, but it allows him to relax more fully (not having to remain standing), while you stimulate him from beneath the table.

There’s a slight Dom/sub energy to this setup because his genitals are so confined to one space. And for some, there will also be the increased hotness factor of not being able to see each other.

As the provider in this position, do whatever you need to to get as comfortable as possible. Use as many pillows and various body-propping devices as you need so that you can engage in this one for as long as you need to.

12. The Nourisher

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In the nourisher, your objective is to reach over his torso (from his head-side) while giving his mouth/face access to your belly and breasts. You can engage in this position while standing (for example, if your lover is on a massage table or raised bed and you are standing on the ground), or while kneeling (if you are on a bed with him). Either way, some men relish the opportunity to receive the nourishment of burying their face in your belly and/or breasts.

Depending on your unique setup, it may be more challenging for you to reach his genitals with both of your hands but where you place your hands and for how long is entirely up to you.

13. Milking The Bull

With your man on all fours (either hands and knees, or elbows and knees), you stimulate his genitals with both hands.

This particular position really excels in your ability to access his testicles and/or anus, so if your man is into ball play or butt stuff, this position is a real winner. It also gives you the best access for anilingus (or ‘rimming’ as it’s often referred to).

Another thing to note is that some men (fewer than 50%, but still some) enjoy having their penises stroked in a more downwards direction. Downwards as in away from the direction of his stomach. So in this position, the head of his penis would point less towards his navel and more towards his knees. For such men, this position can also be a real winner as it gives you the opportunity to ‘milk’ him downwards, towards the bed or floor.

14. The King’s Chair

 

This handjob position starts to play a bit more with the power dynamic aspect of the sexual act. To engage in the King’s chair, your man simply sits on an elevated surface and you kneel at a lower level and reach up to stimulate him.

Whether he sits on a bed, chair, kitchen table, or countertop is entirely up to you. The sky’s the limit!

15. Standing Service

 

This position takes the power dynamic aspect to its ultimate conclusion. For the standing service, your man stands up and you kneel beneath him and stimulate him from there.

If your man especially enjoys having his testicles and/or anus stimulated while receiving a handjob, ensure that he stands with his feet wide enough apart for you to have full access to all of him.

If you both enjoy playing with the power dynamic aspect of this position, you might want to throw in lots of eye contact and dirty talk while you’re at it.

16. The Reverse Handjob

For the reverse handjob, your man lies down on his stomach with his legs slightly spread apart, and you stimulate his penis from between his legs. This is almost like a lay-flat version of the ‘Milking the bull’ position, but more relaxed for him.

For the man who adores having his testicles, scrotum, and/or anus stimulated, this position is a total winner.

17. The Little Spoon

Regardless of whether every man will admit to it or not, everyone enjoys being the little spoon some of the time.

For this position, your man lies down on his side, and you lie down behind him (in a spooning position) and reach over his side and stimulate him that way.

One modification of this position (for the man who loves having his balls and/or anus played with) is that you can spoon him in a lower position (so that your stomach is closer to his butt compared to his mid-back) and use your second hand to stimulate his balls and/or anus from behind.

18. The Cradle

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For the breast-loving men out there, this position is an absolute god-send.

To engage in the cradle, you prop yourself up with pillows or lean against something comfortable and sturdy, while your man lays himself across your lap. While he sucks your breast, you stimulate him with your free hand that is closer to his penis.

This position is incredibly intimate and for the couple that it calls to, it can really create a lot of tender connection at a rapid clip.

Because this position is so tender and vulnerable, your man may have some emotional resistance to it, or even outright fear. The resistance is generally tied to one of two things: 1) what if, because I crave this so deeply, I experience emotions like sadness or grief during this, and 2) will you still love me if I experience those emotions? Either of these fears comes down to one thing – fear of loss of love. His mind might worry, ‘Will you love me less if I show you my more tender emotions? Will you think less of me as a man?’

So, as long as you feel confident in your love for the man you are engaging in this position in and are able to hold yourself in the face of his full emotional expression, this position is a powerful one that I highly recommend trying out. It has a higher potential to be healing for the both of you.

Handjob Positions Are Just The Beginning

The specific handjob positions that you use while giving your man a handjob is a potent tool at your disposal. But handjob positions are just the beginning.

If you’ve ever wondered about the best ways to touch him… the best kind of lubricant to use… exactly what to do with your hands while you’re showing him the time of his life, then I strongly recommend checking out my brand new video program, Bring Him To God: Advanced Handjob Mastery For Women.

In the program, I dive into all of the sexiest tips that will guarantee your ability to exponentially level-up your handjob skills. How to warm him up effectively, how to communicate during them, the exact hand positions that kick his arousal into high gear and give him explosive orgasms… it’s all in there. Plus a whole lot more.

If you haven’t already, check out Bring Him To God: Advanced Handjob Mastery For Women today. Hundreds of women have already gone through it and absolutely adored it.

Curious? Check it out today.

Your man (current or future), and your future sex life will thank you.

Dedicated to your success,

Jordan

Ps. If you enjoyed this article on handjob positions, you will also love checking out:

Bring Him To God: Advanced Handjob Mastery For Women (video program for women on how to give the most intense, life-changing handjobs possible)

Queen of Blowjobs (video program for women on how to give him the most phenomenal blowjob of his life, guaranteed)

The 8 Sexiest Positions For Blowjobs (With Photos)

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