Want to make him so turned on he’s biting his lip and squirming in the sheets? Implementing these blowjob positions is a quick way to do exactly that.
A blowjob is a great sexual tool to stoke his arousal, or your own, and create a specific energy. But like any tool, it can be used ineffectively and not achieve maximum results. To get the most out of it, it helps to bring some tactical intention into your approach and focus on the bigger picture of the experience.
By stacking multiple points of arousal, and strategically playing with your body position, you can easily and instantly elevate the blowjob out of the realm of routine and lacklustre, and onto the level of head-splitting-ly sexy.
Here’s a blowjob secret:
On blind sensation alone, blowjobs don’t feel THAT amazing…
If your focus is purely on stimulating his cock, you’re missing out on the key factors that hold most of the potential in making blowjobs phenomenal.
Sure, the intensity of sensation from oral stimulation will vary from man to man. But, on the whole, the penis has far less nerve endings than the female clitoris. What makes the oral experience so delicious for him is the energy you bring to it, the subtle power dynamic, and witnessing the whole thing go down.
As I touched on in a recent article about diving deeper into how to give world-class blowjobs, men are very auditory/visual creatures. A lot of the time his drives and turn-ons while fucking are how a certain position looks, or the angle of his favourite parts of your body, or the sound of your breath and the noises you make, rather than how the stimulation actually feels (although it is definitely still a factor).
I also mentioned that the biggest thing that makes blowjobs and sex hot for him is the general energy that you bring to it. But a very close second is the shape, curves, and appearance of your body. He wants to visually admire you, and see you and touch you in all your beautiful, naked glory.
This article focuses more on the second point of physical tactics, rather than mental state and energy. Many of these blowjob positions will serve the purpose of providing a feast for the eyes, as well as the hands, since sight and touch are important triggers to get his engine revving.
A few other positions will emphasize the power dynamic of blowjobs, which is another crucial ingredient in what makes certain blowjobs erotic. Depending on the position, blowjobs can put the man in an energetic place of power, and the woman in one of servitude.
Call it old-fashioned, but there’s something undeniably sexy about this feeling. I know even more women than men who are vocal about loving it.
Use this list as a bread-and-butter base from which to explore other shapes and positions. Experiment, explore, and invent. Just remember: layer the arousal factor by finding ways to show off your goods and provide touchable areas in the process.
With that, here is my list of the eight sexiest positions for blowjobs:
1. The Standard
This is the missionary position of BJ’s. The man lies on his back and the woman is between his legs, facing him directly. While it’s not acrobatic or wildly novel, it is downright sexy in the right moments. In this position, he can’t touch much of you besides your head. But this emphasizes the feeling of being intentionally serviced, rather than mutually stimulated. If you want your partner to feel more like it’s just for him, this is a good option.
The woman can accentuate her curves and turn up the visual arousal by taking a variation of the yoga position “child’s pose” (yeah, not an ideal name for this context, I know). Rather than laying down on her belly, she can start from a kneeling position, then lean all the way forward, lifting her ass up in the air to show off the curves of her butt, hips, and waist.
This visual will drive him wild and make him wish he was behind you with his face buried in you, or penetrating in doggy style. Chances are, he will jump up and pounce you from behind at some point shortly after. Being able to quickly transition to cowgirl or doggy style when he reaches his boiling point is another benefit to this shape.
2. The Pivot
Starting from the standard position, the woman pivots 90 degrees in either direction, so her body is perpendicular to his. This brings the rest of her body within arms reach. He can more easily access her breasts, arms, ass, back, or even manually stimulate her, if he so desires.
This extra layer of visual stimulation turns the notch way up on the hotness dial. It shows off your body from a whole new angle and gives him a feast for the eyes.
This position can also be used strategically to tease and incrementally build his arousal, step by step, to increase the impact of the experience. Like a striptease, it slowly reveals more and more, and closes the distance between the two of you over time.
Starting in The Standard position creates space between the two of you and the opportunity to build up from there. Transitioning into The Pivot brings you a little closer and brings more of your body into view, while offering a little bit more tactile sensation by touch and playing with what is accessible. To continue the trend, and give him a little more to push him over the edge, take it one step further by moving into the next position…
3. 69’ing
The 69 is the crème de la crème of mutual oral pleasure. Most often, the man lays on his back with the woman on top of him, inverted, with her knees above his shoulders and her head at his cock. This way, each person has oral access to the others’ genitals.
This can also be flipped so the man is on top, or rolled over so both people are laying on their sides. Every person and couple will usually find one variation hotter than the others. Find your preference and dive in!
This position has it all. If I could choose to die in any situation, this would be it. If he’s also an ass man, he’ll be on cloud 9. Seriously… he gets to lap up your pussy while encased in a juicy set of thighs, he can squeeze and stroke your ass, grab your breasts, AND gets his dick sucked at the same time. Time and time again, I’m rendered speechless by just how fucking hot 69’ing can be.
That said, it has to be set up well for maximum impact. Squeeze all the potential juice out of 69’ing as possible by gradually working up to it. There’s a LOT happening here. Capitalize on that by working up to it in sequence from the last two positions, rather than diving right in. Transitioning through these first three positions on the list is a perfect 3-step process to gradually get him worked up to maximum arousal.
If you have a favourite vibrator or dildo, this is an ideal opportunity to let him use it on you. Feeling you panting and squirming will create an upward spiralling feedback loop and shoot the hotness factor through the roof.
4. King’s Chair
This position adds the nice element of a subtle power dynamic. The man sits up in a chair, with the woman on her knees between his legs. Like The Standard, this position doesn’t offer as much to touch and explore (although, arguably easier access to touching your breasts), but the arousal factor comes much more from the look and energy of the position.
The woman kneeling lower down subtly but palpably emphasizes the feeling of service from the woman to the man. It makes him feel powerful and catered to – like a king. If you’re in the mood to honour your man and make him feel valued, this blowjob position is a good way to do it.
Like 69’ing, this position is also another one where the woman using a vibrator at the same time is especially incredibly sexy. Explore his thighs and chest with your hands at the same time for additional holistic pleasure.
5. Standing Service
Like King’s Chair, this position leverages a subtle power dynamic. The man stands fully upright, while the woman is on her knees in front of him. This is a good base from which the man can provide direction and further amplify the implicit Dom/sub polarity.
He can choose to alternate between passively receiving stimulation and actively creating it by thrusting into her mouth. Of course, you would have to consent to this, and how aggressively you’re comfortable with him thrusting is up to you.
I commonly hear women say they feel this is the most erotic and sexy position for them to perform oral on a man. The consensus is there’s something about feeling used for his pleasure, or at his service, that is a massive turn on for certain women.
He will likely enjoy this one for the same reasons. On his end, it feels like a powerful position, and the view is great from above. Focusing on maintaining eye contact will drive him extra wild. Having him ejaculate on your chest (or face, but careful with the eyes) is extra hot from this vantage point too.
6. Doggy Style
This is essentially the classic doggy style position for full penetration, but with the woman turned around to use her mouth instead of vagina. The man is on his knees with the woman on her hands and knees in front of him.
A doggy style blowjob is a good pit stop between penetration to mix up the energy, provide a humping break, and top up the charge of arousal.
If he moves his hips back slightly, as if to sit on his heels, he will also be able to switch to a more active, thrusting mode, if you’re both into it.
7. The Lie Back
This is the first position on the list where the man really has full control, and the woman has a more passive role. Here, the woman lies on her back, with her head hanging off the side of the bed. The man stands at the edge of the bed and basically penetrates her mouth and throat as if he was fucking her normally.
As this position is great for deep throating, it may not be for you if you have a particularly sensitive gag reflex. That said, you can still communicate and enjoy this position with him just staying in the front area of your mouth.
Many women tend to say they feel very vulnerable in the Lie Back position, and will only fully let go and enjoy it with someone they deeply trust. Let him know up front what you’re open to, and communicate how you’re feeling in the moment.
Pro tip: by keeping one or both of your hands on his thighs, you can also guide the depth of his penetration and/or communicate non-verbally about your moment to moment comfort level with what’s happening. Tactile feedback is a good workaround for communication during this more vulnerable position.
8. The Lazy Pivot
This is another shape that really accentuates the woman’s curves – especially her hips and ass. The man lays on his back with the woman laying perpendicular to him, on her side. It’s similar to The Pivot, but with her laying down and facing away from him (or towards him).
In this position, he can easily grab your ass, see the curve of your hip, and enjoy the shape of your body from behind.
In the occasion that you don’t feel sturdy or comfortable balancing on one hand, or simply want to use both your hands to stimulate his cock, or any other area, laying on your side allows you to relax your body while opening up more options to add layers of stimulation.
There are several factors that make up a great blowjob. Bringing awareness to what his point-of-view is in each position and showing off your body are a big piece of the puzzle.
Pair this with the notes on your own mindset and energy in my other article on blowjobs to bring the two together and you’ll have the full arsenal at your disposal.
Remember to work arousal dynamics by starting slow and creating some distance, then gradually giving him more to see and more to touch. Switch up the power dynamic with more “service-based” positions when the time is right.
Most of all – get playful and saucy, and have fun!
Dedicated to your success,
Jordan
Ps. If you enjoyed this article, you’ll also love checking out:
– Queen of Blowjobs (video program for women who want to give life-changing oral sex to their man)
– Inside The Male Mind (video series for women)
– The Ultimate Guide To Giving Him The Best Blowjob Of His Entire Life
