Looking to give a massage with happy ending? Look no further!
Giving your man a massage with a happy ending can be a phenomenal, life-changing experience. Both for you and for him.
The intention behind creating a pleasurable experience like this for him can deepen trust, intimacy, and connection in your relationship.
In order to give the best massage with happy ending, it’s important to first know what not to do.
How Not To Give A Massage With Happy Ending
Here’s what a massage with a happy ending often looks like. This is how most people would go about it when left to their own devices.
I repeat, the following scenario is common, but it is not recommended. But it’s still good to know the common pitfalls to avoid, so you can give him a truly amazing sexual experience.
Most people:
– Give little to no thought to the environment that the happy ending massage is happening in
– Rub some oil around his body, touching him in a random, lacking-in-confidence manner
– Feel nervous/embarrassed/afraid he’s getting bored and therefore quickly move to his genitals so that the ‘main event’ can take place
– Give him a rushed, mechanical handjob to make him cum, and then call it a night.
A massage with happy ending in this style leaves much to be desired. Sure, he had an orgasm, but in this type of a situation, more than 95% of the potential depth was totally bypassed.
In the following sections, we’ll get into what to do instead, so that you can give him the experience he deeply craves (even if he doesn’t know that he secretly craves it).
Setting The Scene For His Massage And Happy Ending
Just like the best sex has foreplay as a part of it, the best massages with happy endings also have some warm-up and forethought built into them.
Consider the ambiance you want to set for your man’s experience.
Think about the temperature of the room, the fabrics he will come into contact with, the scent of the room, and the music/sounds that will fill the air.
You can have extra towels, pillows, and a favorite oil on hand.
You can also set the stage by informing him ahead of time that you want to spoil him with something extra special later that day. Whether you tell him minutes, hours, or even days in advance is up to you. You know what will excite your man the most, so lead with whatever timing you think will work best for how he works.
All of these little details might seem unnecessary (and they technically are – because yes, you could get away with not doing them), but it’s the details that take his happy ending massage from blah to breathtaking.
The Basics Of Massage Technique
Start by having him lie down on his stomach.
Whether he is lying on a bed, or on a massage table is up to you. And if owning a massage table sounds luxurious, you may be surprised to learn that you can get a fairly high quality at-home massage table for anywhere from $100-400. So if massaging each other is going to become a regular part of your sex life, owning a table could be a worthwhile investment.
You want him to begin on his stomach because it is the most common, default massage position to begin in, so it allows him to drop into the experience. It also builds sexy anticipation of when you eventually ask him to turn over so you can touch his penis more easily. As we’ll soon dig into, anticipation and teasing is the name of the game in a quality massage with happy ending.
Begin with gentle, relaxing techniques to ease tension throughout his body. You don’t even need to start with any rubbing, kneading, or any kind of intense touch that works out any muscular stiffness. You want to start simply with touch. Running your hands and fingertips over his body to encourage him to drop out of his head and into his body. The lighter the touch (to begin with) the better. This allows his nerve endings to wake up and get excited to be touched by you all over.
After spending some time lightly tracing your fingers over his upper and lower back, the backs of his thighs, calves, and (if he isn’t too ticklish) his feet, then you can start into some light/medium pressure massage of a few key areas.
For most men, their upper back (traps, shoulders, shoulder blades) is a safe place to start.
Remember you still aren’t trying to work out every knot as much as you’re just trying to invite him into his senses, and gift him with loving, soothing touch. The essence of the feminine is one of nourishment. Simply you being there, lovingly touching him and focusing on him is enough to undo months of stress and tension in his body. So don’t worry if you feel like your hands aren’t strong enough to really work out his knots. Simply show up with loving presence, and you’ll be doing more than enough for him.
How To Thoroughly Warm Him Up With Sensual Foreplay
As you transition from general, light body massage, towards a more sensual sense of foreplay, the main thing you want to focus on is what area of his body you are touching, and what part of your body you’re touching him with.
Generally, the further away from his genitals, the less sexual the area will be. Think shoulders, arms, hands, calves, feet, scalp.
And the closer to his genitals the body part, the more sexual it will be. Think lower back, butt/glutes, lower abdomen, thighs/inner thighs.
As for what you’re touching him with, I recommend that you exclusively touch him with your hands, forearms, and elbows in the first half of the massage. And as you progress into more sensual/sexual territory, it’ll be wildly sexy if you start to incorporate other parts of your body that you’re touching him with. For example, if you have longer hair, you can find ways to casually let your hair drag across parts of his body while you massage him. If you’re topless, you can also rub your breasts on him. You can give him light kisses on certain parts of his body to heighten his arousal. And if you’re especially daring, you can even rub your butt on him (whether on his front or back, it’s still sexy either way).
Another thing to incorporate is you can do some light moaning as you touch him. Remember, increasing the sensuality of the experience isn’t just done through touch alone. Consider incorporating different forms of stimulation in the areas of sound (moaning, whispers, loving words, etc.) and taste (chocolate, drinks, snacks, etc.).
The Happy Ending Transition
Alright, so you’ve warmed him up with lots of teasing, sensual touch, and his body is feeling electric and alive. What next?
With your man still lying on his stomach, this is when you start bringing in the real power moves.
Now, get ready, because this little technique is the real 80/20 power play of the whole massage. And it’s deceptively simple.
With your man lying face down on his stomach, you want to start going closer and closer to his genitals, from between his legs.
Specifically, you want to start by touching and massaging his butt… and then touching, teasing, and massaging his inner thighs.
You want to touch and tease his inner thighs for so long that he starts squirming around. These squirms are a surefire sign that he is either a) adjusting his position because he is now lying on his erection, or b) he is shifting around because he wants you to touch him directly as soon as possible. But… just because he wants that does not mean that you give it to him (just yet).
Over time, your teasing of his inner thighs get closer and closer to his genitals. When you feel like he’s suffered enough teasing, it’s time to move on to the next stage of teasing.
Next, you start touching, teasing, and massaging right up to his groin. In other words, where his thighs meet his crotch (on either side of his testicles). Again, take… your… time. He’ll be squirming even more and secretly loving it.
After you’ve spent some time there, you want to start touching his testicles directly. First his testicles, then his penis (just a little bit, every now and then), and also (if he’s into it) his anus/butt crack.
I can’t say this enough: spend your time here. Like, a lot of time. Tease him a ton while he is still in this position. This is the 80/20 tip that kicks his experience into overdrive.
He should be so thoroughly teased in this position (with you intermittently touching his inner thighs, testicles, groin, penis, and butt) that he is squirming with anticipation, and his penis will be rock hard.
Even if it begins to feel slightly like you’re torturing him, take your time here. You’ll know when it’s time to tell him to turn over, so you can relieve his pressure.
Unsure if it’s been long enough? Then it’s likely that you need to spend a few more minutes teasing him from behind.
Pay attention to his breathing, the sounds he’s making, and how his body is responding to your touch. As you notice the non-verbal cues he’s giving you, you’ll know when to ask him to flip over.
When you’re sure he’s had enough of being teased, you can invite him to turn over (which he will do quickly and excitedly).
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The Big Finish
Did you sufficiently warm him up when he was lying on his stomach? If so, then you have full permission to touch his penis sooner than later.
Yes, you can tease him a little bit by touching the front of his thighs and the area around his groin, but for the most part, now that his erect penis is facing you directly, you’re allowed to just oil up/lube up, and start touching his genitals with the point of getting him towards orgasm.
If you used oil to massage him, you may want to switch up your oil for lube. The reason? Water-based lubricant tends to have a better glide-factor and a longer staying-power than most oils. If you only have oil available, that should be more than sufficient for most men, circumcised or uncircumcised. If you’re unsure, you can always ask him which sensation he prefers. There’s nothing wrong with a verbal check-in every now and then.
With your man flipped over and erect, it’s time to start working your magic.
Take him into your hands, and stimulate him in a way that you know feels good to him.
If you teased him up well beforehand, he might only need a couple of minutes (or less) to reach orgasm. It’s up to you whether you continue teasing him, or relieve his pressure with a quicker orgasm.
For further reading on giving an extended, loving penis massage, you can read this deep-dive article on lingam massage.
And to go even deeper, I strongly encourage you to check out my Bring Him To God: Advanced Handjob Mastery For Women course that my wife Demetra and I recently created together.
Aftercare And Loving Connection
Once your man experiences his ‘happy ending’, it’s always helpful to close the session with some warmth and affection.
If he isn’t feeling too sensitive, you can gently touch his legs, feet, or outer groin area with your hands. Some men also love it if you gently rest your hands on his genitals. As in, you can envelope his penis and testicles in the palms of your hands.
Verbally, this would be a great time to say some loving, kind words. Things like, ‘I love you’, ‘Mmm… thank you’, or ‘I love the sounds you make when you cum.’
By saying kind words and/or expressing your gratitude to him, it will touch his heart and make him feel that much more loved and cared for.
What Now?
The vast majority of men have never experienced such loving, tender, focused time with their bodies. This is a highly unique experience that men basically never get to experience, and also never give to themselves.
Approach his happy ending massage with love, presence, and attentiveness, and he’ll never forget the experience as long as he lives.
If you want further support in giving him the best massage with happy ending experience of his life, I highly recommend checking out the Bring Him To God: Advanced Handjob Mastery For Women course. Inside, you’ll learn everything you need to learn about specific techniques, ways to touch him, lubrication, and more.
And if you’ve gone through that, I also recommend checking out the Queen of Blowjobs program, and Eternal Glow. These programs combined make you into a lover no man has ever encountered in his entire life, and will set you head and shoulders above the rest of his past lovers.
Regardless of how deep you go into these three offerings, I wish you the absolute best in your sex life. I hope you experience the kind of sex that previous versions of you could only ever dream about.
Dedicated to your success,
Jordan
Ps. Did you enjoy this article on massage with happy ending? great! Then you’ll also love checking out the following resources:
– Bring Him To God: Advanced Handjob Mastery For Women
– How To Give A Life-Changing Penis Massage (aka Lingam Massage)
– Loving Dirty Talk: Loving Words To Say During Sex (55 Phrases)
– Lingam Massage: Awakening Male Sexual Energy
