Thinking of working with a sex coach, but not sure what you’ll get out of it?
Perhaps you know someone who has worked with a sexuality or intimacy coach and seen great results.
In this article, I’ll dive into seven of the most significant ways that people benefit from working with sex coaches.
By the end, you’ll know whether or not you will uniquely benefit from sex coaching.
9 Reasons To Work With An Online Sex Coach
1. It gives you a safe space to discuss a rarely talked about aspect of your life
Firstly, sure, we can go to our friends or significant other about certain challengers. But sometimes, we need an impartial, wise confidant who doesn’t have any personal, pre-existing bias about us. Someone who can shoot us straight, and let us know about any blindspots we might have.
Sex coaching (as opposed to sex therapy) tends to be more direct and action-oriented. In other words, you won’t just be asked, “And how do you feel about that?” in endless loops.
If you want to find a solution to a sex-specific issue you’ve been navigating, working with a sex coach is a great place to start.
2. You want to know if your desires, habits, or ways your body responds are normal
Sex is one of the most personal, intimate aspects of our entire lives.
Sometimes, unique things pop up and we aren’t sure if everyone experiences this, or if it’s something that is more unique to us.
By talking with a sex coach, you get direct access to someone who has spoken to hundreds (if not thousands) of people, and has a far-reaching sample size of people’s lived experiences to pull from.
You might want to discuss a new fantasy that has been bubbling up for you. Or you might want to know if it’s normal to have a libido that shifts seasonally.
Whatever it is you’re curious about, a sex coach can help reassure you that what you’re navigating is (most likely) entirely normal, and that you are far from alone.
3. You want to make progress on certain sex-specific goals
Whether you’re integrating a new layer of your sexual identity, putting old sexual trauma to bed, or something else entirely, we all have goals in life that we want to make meaningful progress on.
A sex coach will help you make tangible progress on the unique goals that matter most to you.
4. You want to discuss something about your sex life privately
Sometimes, you just need a session or two to talk to someone who doesn’t know you personally, and bounce something off of them.
Maybe a new seismic shift has started to occur in your relationship with your significant other, and you want an outside opinion.
Or perhaps you have friends and family members who you trust, but you want to ensure that your conversation remains private and so you enlist external support.
Many coaches can guarantee privacy and confidentiality, so your secret is safe with them.
5. You’re looking to overcome a specific challenge
Sometimes, a more tangible, frustrating block emerges in our sex lives.
Maybe you’ve never been able to have an orgasm while being sexual with a partner. Or maybe you’re a man who suffers with performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction, or premature ejaculation.
Whatever sex-specific thing you’re looking to overcome, a sex coach who has been working for a good length of time will have encountered (and successfully helped) many people in your exact position before.
6. You want to better understand certain desires or fantasies
Every now and then, a new fantasy or sexual desire will emerge that hadn’t appealed to you (or been on your radar) before.
When this happens, it’s entirely natural to want to understand the deeper meaning it might hold.
Often, sexual desires or fantasies that we have act like placeholders for something we are looking to integrate in ourselves as a whole.
And when these fantasies border on the strange, unique, or taboo, it makes even more sense that we would want to understand why they would be bubbling up for us.
An experienced online sex coach can help you gain the clarity you seek, and come to see the desire or fantasy as healthy and worthy of your attention.
7. You want to work on your sexual confidence and self-esteem
Ultimately, many people who seek out sex coaching want to feel more confident in an area that is easy to feel less-than-confident in.
Sex is one of the most tender areas of our lives where we can feel truly vulnerable and exposed.
By filling in knowledge gaps and working on your skills, you can come to feel entirely more confident and capable in your sex life.
8. You feel bored and have a sense that there’s another level for you, sexually
It is entirely normal to fall into a sexual rut at times in our lives.
Maybe you’ve been with your partner for decades and they’ve come to feel a bit too familiar. Maybe child-rearing has you feeling exhausted, with little to no energy at the end of the day to dedicate to your sensual self. Or perhaps you’ve been following your culture’s sexual script for too long, and the whole ordeal just feels a bit predictable and dull.
By pushing back against the humdrum of same-old-same-old and wanting something more for yourself, you’re deploying courage. Wanting more for yourself (and your partner) is commendable.
We all, always, have another level of growth and integration ahead of us.
By saying no to the mediocre middle, we say yes to a life of increased aliveness, passion, and eroticism.
9. You want to expand your sexual toolkit with new knowledge and skills
At the end of the day, many people simply seek out sex coaching because they want to feel more confident and adept in the bedroom.
For these people, feeling “good enough” at sex isn’t good enough. They would rather put the time, energy, and effort in to become remarkable lovers. Again, this kind of drive and desire should be applauded.
It isn’t uncommon for someone to feel quite confident about their appearance and their ability to ask for what they want in bed, but feel a skills-gap in some specific sex act. Such a person might seek out a course on blowjobs, handjobs, foreplay, or squirting orgasms to round out their education.
And another person might feel quite skilled in the skills-department, but want to work on their self-love and body acceptance.
Furthermore, with over 8 billion people in the world, no two people are entirely alike. We all have our stuff.
A skilled sex coach can help you navigate your unique desires, skills, and mindset for the best outcomes possible.
You Did It!
I hope that this article helped you clarify why someone might work with an online sex coach.
And if you’re wanting further support, I’d recommend checking out some of the additional resources below.
Dedicated to your success,
Jordan
Ps. If you enjoyed this, you’ll also love checking out the following:
– Apply For 1-on-1 Coaching With Jordan
– Supercharge Your Sex Life (video series for men)
– Queen of Blowjobs (video series for women)
– Bring Him To God: Advanced Handjob Mastery For Women (video series for women)
